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A new catch-up. I have not fallen off the face of the earth!
It's been awhile since I've been online, and wanted to catch up with my friends, many of you who held my hand for so long.
In my last blog, I was working part-time and H and I were going to counseling.
It didn't work. H paid lip service to the counseling, but when it came down to nuts and bolts, that's all it was, was lip service.
A catch up for all my long time friends
For many of my friends on here, I've become the lost in space Bewitched. But I'm still around, just have my hands full currently.
I think the last time I posted, I had filed for divorce. That is now on hold. Due mostly to financial need, I agreed to counseling with H. And I will admit things have improved dramatically. H has been coming home and working really hard on the place with me here, and the demeaning phone calls have stopped.
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Kind of OT-Kind of Not. What's being a Step doing to your financial future?
I currently find myself in an unenviable position (if there is such a word). Being of a certain age, I should be looking at retirement options in the next 15 or so years. Not going to happen. As a single mom on a poverty income, there was nothing to set aside. Then when my youngest got older, I saved for retirement, only to have it lost in the stockmarket. Now comes my marriage, and subsequent divorce from the financail disaster of H.
The reality has set in, I'm sad. And now H is trying manipulation. I sign papers this week.
Ever since the big blow up on the phone, the restraining order, H has been trying to his damnedest to "charm" me. Now all of a sudden, today, I am "sweetheart". It sounded foreign coming from him. I haven't heard that term once in 14 months of marriage.
H is out. I have filed for divorce. I have a restraining order in place.
Things were pretty ugly with all the nasty phone calls and vms Sunday nite, but now it's over.
Fathers Day-for the soon to be single H.
For those who follow my story, you know the deal. You know the financial nightmares H hid from me when we married. You know the inappropriate behaviour between H & SD18.
In May, things were really bad. Really really bad. H's garnishment is killing us financially, yet he spent spent spent on SD18. He promised me that once May was over, if I'd just get thru that month with him ( as it was devoted-the entire month and tons of money-to SD18 by H) things would change. SD18 would be out of school and 18, and things would get better.
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Who, exactly, is H's wife? Is it me, or SD18? Long, long, long.
H came home for a long weekend (he had 5 days off) and announced we were going to build a fence. This would be because H's boss objected to H having his dog at the apartment, and I told him the dog cannot stay here while I'm at work because he poos and pees in the house. So, we are building a fence.
Friday morning before going to work I helped measure for it. Then went to work. H went and played cards, but did have the post holes dug by the time I got home.
OT-I just started a new job, and something happened I'd like your opinions on
As of yesterday, I have been on the job for 13 days. I work at a speciality clinic, with 37 rotating doctors, in Central Registration. We answer the hospital switchboard, the outpatient clinic phones, admit patients (both to hospital, ER, and speciality clinic). And schedule appointments.
Wednesday I finally got my scheduling passwords, and started learning that system.
My supervisor is on vacation.
I stayed completely away from the Graduation fiasco
I don't think H believed me when I told him I wasn't going. But I stayed home, and we did not even discuss how it went. All I know about it is that SD17 received a couple of thousand in gifts; H's sisters, unlike H, are wealthy.
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Reflections-I still do not understand, probably never really will, what has happened here
Since I got the call about the job :smile:, I've been really thinking about the dynamics of the last year with H. The hand writing is on the wall. I'll have to wait and see what my first paycheck amounts to, see if I'll be able to make it until I get on full time, but I know it's over between him and I.
I think I'll never ever understand how a man can go from loving you and wanting to marry you, to not even being intimate on your wedding nite. How did saying "I do" change everything? And it's been downhill ever since.