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Well, the time has gone by pretty quickly, we're on week 12 of SD15 living with us, and it hasn't been easy. We just had court last week, and it's official though BM has yet to return all the CS from the last 3 months which she is court ordered to do. As I've mentioned, most of my problems have been with BF, and his lack of parenting her. To his credit, he has not interfered with MY parenting of her in any way, nor has SD given my any attitude or grief about the ways in which I have reigned her in. But I have become resentful of having to do all I do.
You have to attend 6 free sessions of counselling with the other bio parent to see if you can work an agreement out without going to court. Today BM recieved the request for counselling and hit the roof..... Phoning both BF and myself at work and she said by doing this we are putting her 3.5 year old at risk, as she has stated to the court re the court battle between her and that kids BF that she has a great relationship with the other two BF one of which is my partner and that we all have very good, open communication (Yeah right).
After getting laid off from the airlines (DH is a pilot), he got a job flying charter aircraft. It pays 1/3 of what he made before (think almost federal poverty wages), and has him gone for days on end with little notice. Tonight was a perfect example. After being gone three days (and leaving me with the skids 9,11 and BD 1. He walks in the door tonight and says, "Hey, I just stopped in to change clothes. I have to head out again for another trip. I'll be back tomorrow." UGH.
We've been down this road before my friends. Please just say a prayer (or whatever it is that you do) for my friend who is more like a father to me than my own.
He has just been diagnosed with Stage III or Stage IV melanoma. 
After extensive testing, he will know on Monday which one. Stage III is the better prognosis. (Pardon the obvious)
We went to Court today to try and get some child support and past medicals from the BM. Turns out her attorney was the mediator when they were fighting over custody and couldn't represent her in Court so they gave her until June to get a new attorney.
BM called me yesterday and asked if she could get SD early today because she and new boyfriend (dating less than a month) want to take SD to the zoo with Boyfriend's niece.
BM told me she IS OFF HER ANXIETY MEDS AND HAVING LOTS OF ANXIETY ATTACKS, BUT SHE KNOWS SHE WILL BE BETTER WHEN SHE HAS SD AND SHE CAN SMELL HER.
Um...
My dh and I sat down with sd (12) and talked about her math grade she is failing and emails from the teacher indicate that she is not trying her best. She is currently living with bm and at our home every Wednesday and EOW. My other sd (10) is coming to our home for visits very tired with bags underneath her eyes nearly every visit. Bm is very controlling and favors ss (7) which does not come to our home and has not been taking scheduled one on one visits with dh. Currently BM and her husband live in a small 3 bedroom home.
So this is my story, sorry trying to make it short!!
I realize this is super, super long & I don't expect anyone to even read it. I just have to vent to get this out of my system!!!!
I know alot of us on here have the disneyland dads. Dads who cater to their darlings every whim, and refuse to discipline said darlings, refuse to enforce decency and respect in their darlings.
H, as many of you know, is one of the worst cases of disneyland dad.
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