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I can't take anymore, I have to write a fanasty email or I will explode. A little background, (some of you may know some of it) I have three SDs 19, 17 and 14, who are exposed to a lot of PAS. SD19 is "special needs" (BP, BPD, FASD, etc) and has a 2 year old child. She was living with us but when she qualified for income assistance and started paying us rent and food after three months, mommy dearest caught the scent of money in the air and with oodles of promises manipulated her into moving back in with her (last time it lasted two weeks).
background: im 27, no kids never married, fh is 30, ss4
Here are some questions.
do things get easier or harder with bm when you have a bio kid?
how do you feel towards your skids after having a bkid?
Do you feel you fh loves your kids as much as skids?
Do you care less about what bm does, or more?
some people mention that they cant wait to have their husband and their house back when skids leave, is this the same for having their their kids father back too?
quite feeling sorry for myself. I blogged yesterday about DH not wanting to go with me back to Active and you mentioned that perhaps it was not in God's plan. I am a big believer in fate and you are absolutely right. This was bound too happen sooner or later and after thinking about it, I knew when I was 17 that I wanted to be a mother and I wanted to be lifelong military member and somehow I seriously got derailed and became a wife, tagalong and civillian again.
SS12 has been having behavioral problems lately. He has had 3 meltdowns in the last 4 weeks. He gets very aggressive and tries to hurt SS7 and BM. The last time BM called DH to try to calm SS12 down. When DH got to BM’s house SS12 had locked BM and SS7 out of the house. SS12 then crawled out a window and tried to attack DH when he saw him. DH had to physically restrain SS12.
i could look, but i was curious if anyone knew of sites like this that are for bm's to vent about step parents? i was curious to see how they view things.
I couldn't think of a better title?
It goes to show that even though WE as SM's (& SD's) are painted to be evil...there ARE times that it is discovered that we were right all along.
Once upon a time I was deeply in love with a man that had a SS(who was 7 at the time) and he had a WICKED BM that self admitted that because my Ex left her when there son was a baby that she would never let him find peace.
It wasn't just the BM that was a nightmare though..the SS was spoiled rotten by dad and babied by mom...
yesterday there was a blog about how do you disengage. I read it and responded, and read the other responses, but i was curious how you might feel in my situation.
my fh does not let my crazy mil or his exw get to him, he will call me and get me all worked up over the latest drama, and then be like oh well they are stupid shi**. it was so hard for me to just drop it after getting upset, that now ive asked him to not tell me unless it effects me. However i still cant help but want to ask every night, was there any drama today?
I think this is beacause of 2 things.
So, I'm writing a feature for mother's day about a stepmother who is not a bio-mom who is raising her three stepkids. I found a lady to feature in the article, it's one of SS5's teachers. I'm interviewing her this afternoon at 3pm.
I was wondering if you have any suggestions for questions so that I can get the full stepmom story out of her and make a nice mother's day story about a non-biomom in a mom role.
Just curious..I'm sure there will be mixed responses.
Would you rather the SK's be with you this Mother's Day or with the BM..
I'm sure it depends on the relationship with BM and the SK in general.
As for me, I like my SS2..he is adorable (annoying at times like any baby or when he always begs for food)...as soon as he walks in he runs to me and hugs me..I've grown fonder of him the past few weeks. Now Sat. - Sunday night is FH's time with him. I asked FH if he was going to have him or the BM...because of Mother's Day - he didn't know.
Okay here is the situation. I have a 13 yr old who keeps breaking the rules OVER AND OVER again. To keep this short I will explain the most frequent problem we have with her:
She is a VERY beautiful and mature looking 7th grader. She looks to be 16 or 17 rather than 13 so its no surprise that she gets A LOT of attention from older boys. The problem is that she is not allowed to "go out" with anyone more than a year older than her. I use the words "go out" very lightly because at this age going out is no more than seeing each other at school or talking on the phone.
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