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DH and I are just never really going to be on the same page. We are desperately trying to at least be in the same chapter I think.
My friend and I were discussing just how blind my husband is. I think he is quite content turning the other cheek and shrugging his shoulders and letting BM act as inappropriate as she wants which in the end allows her behavior to throw my life out of balance. He's at peace. BM is self proclaimed to never be. In all my glory, I just don't think I have it in me to embrace her in all of hers.
Maybe it's me.
What do you guys all have to deal with in regards to pictures of the BM? Does your husband/boyfriend have old pictures of her with the kids, or their old wedding pictures, etc sitting in a photo album or picture box in the garage? My husband did...he says because he was too lazy to go through all his pictures to get rid of the ones with her in them...but a little while after he moved in with me I made him do it. I said you are welcome here, your EX is not! Funny thing is, he didn't ask me to do the same. I still have pics of my EX somewhere, I'm sure.
Ok FH moved into my home this June, his 18 BS lived with him. well when they moved in with me FSS for the most part did not. at the time he had a girlfriend and spent much of his time at her house and would come by occasionally to shower or do laundry, and it was fine cuz he did dishes and helped around the house.
when he broke up with her he stayed with his mom for a bit then kinda moved in with some friends. (not sure his living status anywhere) we would see him maybe once every other week or so.
Here's the cliffnotes version of things. My mom is having surgery Dec 1...it's serious business. I found out last night that this was the newly rescheduled date. I told H while he was at work (3rd shift). He wanted to know what day I have to leave to take her. Not once did he say "Oh hey Lil, what can I do to help...can I go?" etc. Nothing. Not one d*mn word! So I was heated...
So yesterday the phone rings around 5:30pm and its BM because i could hear her big squeaky voice. When I hear her voice my stomach hurts. Anyway she says what she needed to say to DH and when DH hangs up the phone he says to himself now why did she have to call me for that when SD just could have told me. So I just sit there and stay quiet waiting for him to say something. So he says That was BM she said....
I am happy to have found a site that I feel I can get support and/or a "been ther done that". I am Bio-Mom to 3 boys and Step-Mom to 3 boys and a little girl. My boys are ages 12,11,10,9,8,7 and my girl is 5. When I fist started dating my husband, he had all 4 of his children. Since then, my husband the the childrens Bio-Mom have 2 children living in each home. The boys do not like to be at their Bio-moms house. Recently she sent their Step-Dad to p/u my 7 s-son. he didn't want to go and my husband asked if he could just stay and skip the unscheduled visit.
As part of detaching myself from H, putting the short history into words is one of my "chores". And actually, posting on here, password protected and all, seeing you all's responses to the behaviour I sometimes fail to recognize as strange, is theraputic.
Hola everyone! I've been reading posts on this site daily for the past year or so. I finally decided to register, already here all the time.
I'm 25 years old and recently got married this past September to an awesome man. He has three children who are currently 6 (girl), 4 (boy) and 2 (girl). They were 4, 2, and 7 months when I first met them. I love them to bits and they love me, so no problems there.
I thought I would write a blog to introduce myself... I am the SM of 2 Skids.. SD9 and SS5. I had never imagined when I first walked into thier lives what this would be like. I have along the way learned valuable lessons, and patience, and many other things that help make me a better person, and hopefully a better mom. I have no biokids as of yet, but hopefully soon!
I don't know if it's me or if there really is a problem. DH has been super in every way and lately has gotten on board with becoming more of a normal human. We communicate better, he tries harder and things really are going way, way smoother than ever before. And I don't nag or anything...he seriously is committed to working on improving our relationship.
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