DH and I separated on November 1. The plan was that I would live in the house until January 24 (possession of my new house).

Two weeks after we separated I discovered that he signed up for about 4 dating websites. 3 being the kind that you sign up for to have sex with strangers (Ashley Madison, Lonelyhousewives and Adult Friend Finder) and the other two (Plenty Of Fish and Lavalife). I know his e-mail and his password is SD12's name. Simple.

Lately I have, for the most part, been disengaged. After a grueling year of DH trying to modify the custody (to get SD full time) and CS agreement.

After DH and BM completed mediation, I removed myself (It was a hellish year and I was done dealing with it). I thought "DH, you can handle finishing this up..ie, getting the lawyers to draft the agreed-to modification and get it approved by a Judge".

So, despite my desire to remain disengaged, I asked him last night if he got a copy of the signed amendment. He said he did, a few weeks ago and dug it out to show it to me.

Ever have the situation where a skid asks you something and if they don't like the answer, they ask DH? And whatever DH says, goes? His decision "trumps" yours everytime. And you're left thinking "Why do I fucking bother?"

Yeah, that happens to me all the time.

I'm good enough to buy her clothes, haircuts, orthodontics. I'm good enough to take time to entertain her endlessly. But my ACUTAL OPINION on a "parenting" decision is ALWAYS overruled if DH doesn't agree.

BM went off on one of her rants a couple of weeks ago (DH requested a copy of her tax return). FYI, she's not reporting any of her income. Well. I get the slew of texts telling me I'm controlled and that DH's family told her that she should leave him...basically just a lot of random garbage. She also left a scathing voice-mail on DH's cellphone telling him what a POS he is and calling me "that bitch wife of yours".