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Well SD13 got her blackberry curve last night. And I came close to losing it, I was saying things out loud, I brought a lot of tension to the house last night and I DONT EVEN CARE!!! Im tired of sitting back and not saying anything, being careful as not to offend anyone. Im so sick of "waiting til later", you know what? If SD13 is treated like shes an adult well then she can listen in and take it like an adult. I DONT CARE ANYMORE. I want SD's to know just how others look at them, im DONE tip-toeing around trying not to hurt anyones feelings. THEY CAN ALL HEAR ME.
Ok.. so as you all know, I am pregnant. I am now in my 24th week, and will be 25 weeks this coming Sunday. That said, we still have not told the skids. I have successfully managed to hide the stomach under over-sized and baggy clothing.
For those that forgot why we hadn't told them yet, I was afraid their bm would ruin the holidays if she knew sooner. (let face it.. she lost it over me getting a new car w/my salary.. I can only imagine what this will do to her)..
Well, this may be putting the cart before the horse to some degree, but FH and I have spent so much time in the last few weeks talking about SDstb15 coming and living with us, I felt the need to draft a document outlining the commitments, rules, and guidelines we would like to set in place for the new full time family. We go to the lawyer's office Sat, and proceedings begin. BM does not have the financial wherewithall to fight this, so we hope it will be a relatively smooth transition, though she is going to blow a gasket when she gets served.
Okay well as most of you know I have a BD15 and SD15 (well 15 1/2). which means they will be driving soon... toooo sooooon. (SD15 is going to be driving one of DH's cars)
My BD's father passed away in 2001 and she draws a check every month that I have been able to put away and build her a very nice savings for college,,, car whatever...
I think my DH is jealous that I have or my BD15 has this money to fall on if we need too.
I am proud of myself and I wanted to brag - so forgive me. I just got off the phone with H and I made some good points he couldn't argue with. I asked him 'Why are you so cold' his response
"Because when my kids are here you are cold to my daughter"
(mind you he does this every week she is here and has been doing it for years, long before she started being hateful and nasty - even back when I was breaking my neck to build a relationship with her.
I asked him, 'Do you think I started that?' He said "But you are an adult"
from one extreme to the next. But do any of you feel like us as stepparents might be a little bit selfish? I mean we ask our DH or DW to change their attitude, why don't we change ours. Maybe like, I don't give a Sh*t what you do, I'm gonna do me. Just wondering???? That's how I feel. F*ck all this drama. I'm hot and I can go and do whatever. I'm being vain, sorry. I'm just fed up with DH, his ex skank, the skids and their drama I seem to have been drawn into.
Okay.....my first Blog. Teenage SD started her menstrual cycle several months ago. She lived with us up until about 3 weeks ago and moved back with her MOM! Hallelujah!
She came to visit (yeah right) over the weekend and left on Sunday. I went to the bathroom and discovered the trash was full of the nasty stuff. What was worse was, she didn't properly dispose of her stuff like wrap it up in toilet paper. Everything was exposed for the eye to see! This was the upstairs bathroom which her and my older son (19) share.
Well guys not pregnant false alarm......But new drama going on...FH ex step daughter came by work and was upset over breakup with boyfriend...she is 20 yrs old...Fh talked to her like i have never heard him talk before in the 6 years we have been together..He talked to her like she was 2 years old...Oh baby, sweetheart..and on and on...I bought puked...Then she wanted to be alone and left her and went driving around....Ex wife calls work lookin for her..and told Fh that she was gonna call the law if she didnt come home...She is 20 years old how stupid is this....And FH just talks to ex like
I wanted to thank ALL of you. B4 I found this site I was hopeless & frustrated. I felt like a monster all the time. I was unsure of my self as a stepparent and what is the right things to do and what the boundries are. I have no one around me to relate to. BM and my famuly give me grief. the only one who understands and gives me credit is my MIL. But you all have made me realize I'm not the monster and my feels and thoughts are normal and OK. A huge weight as been lifted off of me. I can smile once again and be confident again when I need to deal with BM. THANK YOU for sharing.
So my New Years resolution was to try and reach out to BM, the lady who I had arrested 2 times because she threatened to kill me then broke an order of protection. She also has called my work in the past tring to get me fired and wrote a letter, she claims I broke confidentiallity laws, but obviously did not. She has called DSS on me 3 times tring to get my foster daughter taken away, which did not happen we are now adopting her. She refused to knock on my door to get her son last Friday, she called my DH to have him call me to send out my 4 year old SS.
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