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I have been waiting to get up enough nerve to post my story on here. But today, something good happened and it prompted me to write my first blog. So lets see if I can give my story in a short version. I have been in a Long distance Relationship with my BF for over 3 years now. I live in CA, he lives in CO. I knew he had a son when I met him, but it did not seem to be an issue in the beginning. BF & the BM were never married and never even together as a couple, it was a one night stand.
made my login name it will get worse. Not it will get better. Cause that is exactly how i feel. This is some bullshit I have never been in a relationship with someone that had a kid and dont know if im going to be able to put up with this for the rest of my life. And maybe the Guys that I have dated have thought the same thing who knows. But I feel that when both of you have kids in a relationship you see more... well i do. I see how my son is treated different.... UGGGGGHHHHHHH I just want to scream.
I just found out that I have to work Saturday the 29th which I really dont mind because its SD weekend so i dont mind not being there. But my BF was told by one of my coworkers that I had to work and he said "im not staying with the kids" and the reason why he says this is because the last time he stayed with both of them they got over big time and we got into a big fight because he wants to blame or see that everyone elses kids do wrong but not his daughter.
of this whole situation for me has been the legal system. I like to think things through logically, and make informed decisions. It seems that the legal system just doesn't care about logic, or truth for that matter! When my DH got divorced (seperated 3 yrs prior to filing, she had affairs and a subsequent child) he had many charges against BM, to include her taking them in bars and drinking with them. The judge threw it all out! DH also had records of everything, from incidents to all of the dates that he had the kids.
Why do we put up with what we do. I mean I know that we love the men that we are with. But is it really worth all this Frustration, aggravation, Stomach pains, headaches? I mean think about it if some of us are married already then this is going to go on for the rest of your life. And if your not married yet like me then your just headed for a lifetime of headache. Am I wrong? can someone help me look at it in a different way? I love my BF so much but I feel like the relationship is being ruined by the issues with BM AND SD.
well here in oz we fill out all these forms saying why should have an reducement in cs.... i did that and the time for them to respond was 28 days ... they sent it all late in, the case mangaer let it. So i got to work making sure i have every angled covered. and i was allowed to add more too. Mind u this is all to pay to a 3rd party not the bm. :jawdrop:
I just can not believe its all come to this! cross everything for us hey.....
Last night I got home from work and BF decided that he would like to take SS13 and I out to dinner. The place that we went to was local and also the same place we order our take out from which I always pick up(it's also a resturant). Seeing that I've been to this place to pick up our meals many times in the past the owner remembers me and my name but never knew my situation.
I'm exhausted, worked two jobs tonight, but OH BOY, do I need
to SHARE!!
Just last week, H was calling me a "dictator"...I won't let him DO what he wants to DO...boo hoo!
Here's what he wanted to do: a) have a wicked "card game" with his guy friends (WTF? never mentioned this one before); b) accompany his D (29 yrs old) to her FAVORITE college basketball
team's sporting event.
I have 2 SD's and I treat them as if they were my own only because I would want the same for my children if I had any. Seems like my SD's BM would rather me be an awful person. Why would you want to hurt your own children? What also bothers me is people think she is the best person ever. My SD's get so nervous acting at school functions. I have noticed they wait until BM looks away and then they will wave to DH. You can totally tell we are the conversation at BM's home. BM is remarried and everthing is supposively wonderful with her life.
I too have been reading posts and find them very helpful. It's so nice to know that other people have the same issues with skids.
I was an orphan an grew up in foster homes. I am now 35 years old, dating a wonderful gentleman for a few years. He has a 12 year old daughter and 8 year old son.
We have the skids every other weekend and two nights during the week.
The eight year old is fine with me but SD12 used to be nice to me but now it's seems we lost the connection.
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