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This just burns me up! The woman has been doing this for years and I just get so mad every time I hear about it. SS loves $2 bills, Sacagawea and silver dollars, so there are a few people that will get them for him when they can to add to his collection. Last night, SS and MIL were sitting on the couch talking about his money that he keeps here, and she asked him if he still had his collection at his Mom's house. He said no, his Mom had been having to take his $2 bills and silver dollars to spend on bills.
I was wondering if anyone can offer some helpful advice. I have a 5 year old SD, who after 3 years of a bad custody battle between her parents, we finally get to see her for an extended period of time, who is having a large number of behavior problems. I don't know if she acts the same way at her mothers house as she does ours, but from the things she has told me and her father, she is in trouble at her daycare all the time and a lot with her mom.
I have a 17 yr stepdaughter all this time never caught her talking about me behind my back. Now I hear her talking about me, I just don't feel same way. I got angry, sadness, all mix emotions. Spoke to my dad asking if i could come over just to get piece of quite mind. I did not wanted to comforted her because she has a loud mouth, attitude, always think is right or either her way or highway.
I left the house that night did not come back for two days. Now today she came to house say hi to my daughter did not do eye contact with me and left.
After the second time DH found out that BM and her fiance were taking the skids to accident scenes during their time on call as volunteer firefighters, he notified BM via email that he would not tolerate this in the future. So once again the skids tell us that BM and fiance had left the skids alone (they are 9 and 11) at the firehouse so they could go on "a call." So Dh went in and (very calmly) told the fire chief that he did not feel it was appropriate for our kids to be exposed to accident scenes or left unattended at the fire house.
Okay so here is the story - please tell me if you think we have a shot as normally it seems the BM must do severely heinous acts for a transfer of custody. FH and BM have shared physical and joint legal custody. They separated when my 2 SS's were 6 months and 18 months. Since then (4 years) she has had 4 men move in and out of the home and spawned 2 children while still married to FH but separated amd a;so has moved several times. In 2006 she called FH saying come get the children I cannot handle them anymore.
The above is a a quote from my Mom.
As parents, we all impart some baggage on our kids. Some of us burden our Spawn (Step or Bio) with more severe baggage than others.
As my Mom once told me when I was bitching about some now unremembered complaint during my teen years, "At some point problems children inherit from parents become the child's problem to solve so you are going to have to solve this one because I obviously could not figure it out before I passed the problem on to you".
As some of you have been reading about Zippy16.5 on this site I am wondering if I am being skittish about something.
Zippy hates to work, he would rather game his brains out than do anything else in the world and he would rather do that in our basement 24/7-DH see's nothing wrong with this as this is what kids do these days (yeah right-but I know nothing since my kids are grown).
Zippy's friend Art got Zippy a job where he works at the local hamburger joint. On top of hating to work period-Zippy has to leave early for said job as he must bus (pauvre, pauvre Zippykins).
I have spoken with many of you thru PMs about my blog about a friend who challenged me to define my happiness, my own wants and desires.
I want to challenge all of you. What is it that you crave?
It can't be specific to anyone but yourself. You can't lay the proof in any other person in your life.
It took me two days, a night of restless sleep, and a realization of just how dependent I am on others to define my happiness to come up with this answer:
You know, I was flattered and hurt at the same time over something earlier this year. It was Mother's Day and SS9 made his usual card/poem thing for BM in school. He asked the teacher if he could make one for me, his stepmom, but the teacher said no 
At least he thought of me (for once)... Anyway, same teacher sends two copies of a poem he'd written and in a note, says that one copy is for BM. I don't know why I felt so...excluded but I did.
So sad that the Skids are coming back today afteer a week at G-ma's. I had a meltdown last night. I feel so guilty for missing the peace and quiet of my former life. Not to mention the way my house stays clean when there aren't two little people making messes all the time.
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