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H is out. I have filed for divorce. I have a restraining order in place.

bewitched's picture

Things were pretty ugly with all the nasty phone calls and vms Sunday nite, but now it's over.

Now H is crying. He's telling me how he wants us to go to counseling. How he LOVES Bewitched. How he realizes how wrong he treated Bewitched for the past year. How wrong he and SD18 treated Bewitched. How-ok-here's the big H drama part-here's the extremist and his lies coming thur-get ready-HE actually said IF I HAVE TO NEVER SEE SD18 AGAIN TO SAVE OUR MARRIAGE< THAT'S WHAT I'LL DO. Girls, guys, he makes me ill. Told you he treated her more like a lover than a daughter...doesn't that sound like a man promising to give up his lover to his wife???

As tho I would even be interested in that avenue to save this destructive, horrid relationship.

Sure H. Bought lines like those before, when you swore to me your finances were in order before we married.

Funny. This man who is so in love with bewitched, who does not want a divorce, managed to get into bewitched's phone (thru Alltel) and delete each and every one of his nasty vms. This man who LOVES bewitched so much, made sure he withdrew every dime he could from the checking account.

Sorry H. Actions speak louder than words. And I have no interest in listening to more lies in a counslers office. No interest in pursing this marriage in any way, manner or form.

It's over.

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belleboudeuse's picture

Sounds like you had a rough weekend, BW, but congratulations! I'm soooo glad you're out. Definitely keep us updated.

BB

- You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. (2Bloved)

misguided's picture

Thank God he's gone! Now you can get things back to the way YOU want them to be. What a sick F@@@, yes it does sound like he's willing to give up a gf instead of a daughter. Twisted asshole. I know it's probably lonely right now but keep busy with work and keep your freinds around if possible. Maybe with all the time you had to waste with that family you can spend on you and building a career for yourself. Don't mean to push and may be to early it's just that is what worked for me when I got out of my marriage. I just kept telling myself that time will make it better and it did! I got over it faster than I thought, I think because I didn't love him, just the thought of it and what I thought it should have benn. Thank God you didn't have kids. Do you like your new job? Are you still taking classes? Lot's of possibilities for you right now! Probably not how your looking at it right now but in a way it opens up a whole new world to you and it can't be worse than the one you came from, right? You seem like a really nice person and Karma is real, what goes around comes around and your time is coming!

Sarah101's picture

This guy deserves someone just like himself. You deserve to enjoy your life--the life you have worked so hard for. Concentrate now on the people who love you most and love them back. Ditch the rest of the emotional vampires, including H and his daughter/lover. Sick, sick, sick.

You are so strong and life is so short. You WILL recover from this and be a better, smarter person for sure. Here's a big toast to the rest of your life!

Brooklynne's picture

You have so many opportunities just waiting to open up for you! Concentrate on your job, family, and friends. Do something fun just for you! We're all here if you need us.

frustratedinMA's picture

CONGRATS!!! Dont look back.. just flip him the bird and keep going!!! That is great.. Now change the locks on the house and use them!!! look that psycho family out!!! This is wonderful news!!!

I bet your son was thrilled and relieved.. Did you tell him?? what was his reaction?

bewitched's picture

"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere

Nada. No. Not. He's pouring on the sweetness big time. How does someone going from "I HATE YOU" and "PAYBACK IS A BITCH" to "I love you" "You are my life and I will do anything to get you back" in the course of a few hours. Answer: You don't. Not really, It's H's attempts to manipulate me again.

Oh well. My BS is relieved. Said he's been waiting for this to be done and over with. He has a load he wants to lay on H. And if that will make him (bs) feel better, it's ok by me. He sat and watched, one day, while H walked around this house saying "this is mine, that is mine-everything here is mine". Not so much. Because MY furnishings are at H's apartment. BS watched as H treated his daughter-not daughters, but only SD18 like a prized princess, while my bs and I did the work, and she sat like a queen. He too, has alot of anger at H.

Looking back? I have to way back to see any good. Before this marriage. Even H yesterday stated he was a "great boyfriend, but a terrible husband". The only true statment he's made to me in a very long time.

No. I just want this over with.

Stick's picture

Stay strong. One day down! It's hard now, but it will get easier. You will be soo much better off! A year from now, you'll have a real milestone to celebrate and I hope you'll look back on your strength these days as the "best present" you ever gave to yourself.

Sita Tara's picture

Always remember to keep going forward BW... never go back or get sucked back in.

Good luck and I am so happy for you. Your life is going to take off now that you are on the best path for you.

"To be, or not to be: that is the question:
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer
The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune,
Or to take arms against a sea of troubles,
And by opposing end them?" ~Hamlet Act III scene I

melis070179's picture

Divorce is tough even in bad marriages, so I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I hope you get through it unjaded. Keep your head up! Hugs

"I child proofed my whole house, but they STILL get in!"

SerendipitySM's picture

Bewitched I was so glad to read this post and see that you left him. I have been following your story for months and am so proud of you for standing up for yourself and getting rid of this jacka**. You are an amazing woman!! Don't ever let anyone tell you different. Smile

Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist. - George Carlin