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So while DH was not working, never did I hear MIL say, "hey, don't pay his child support, that's his business..." Quite the contrary, when I had my baby, she came over and harrassed the crap out of me asking "haven't you bought bows for her for your house, doesn't she have X at your house, blah, blah, blah..."
So yesterday was SS10 birthday, BM usually calls for a 2 minute how are you on Saturday's and Sundays.... and SS10 is the one that talks to her more than SS13 dose. Well she didn't call on Saturday, so my Husband text messaged her just as a reminder not to forget to call on SS10's b-day. Well that call never came instead he got a short Happy Birday via e-mail, his comment was is that it? but the weekend before she was asking what he wanted for his b-day and making it sound like she was going to send him something, nothing came and no call.
We had SS10 this weekend, and whilst there were no major dramas, I'm getting increasingly frustrated with the whining & crying.
So, we were hit by the "storm of the century" Friday. Saturday morning, DH decides that he needs to go clear all 25" of snow RIGHT NOW. I took the opportunity to lounge on the sofa and watch. Too bad I didn't have potato chips (even at 7:30am).
So I decided to wear just some jeans and a black tee. I get to the bowling alley with Atilla and SIL is there in....drumroll please....dirty sweatpants and a used-to-be-white Donald Duck & Mickey oversized tshirt. I'm pretty sure if I hadn't peed before I got there, I would've done it with pride right in front of everyone. My other SIL walks in behind me and is setting down the gifts she brought, glanced at Evil SIL and whispers "Now we know why the lunchlady was more appealing." I had to pardon myself to the bathroom to laugh.
Well about 2 weeks ago I had a melt down. I felt much better after it happened and I think it made DH realize just how much he was relying on me to do everything. Since then, DH has really stepped up and has started to help me. Plus DH & I have been talking alot more and not just about bills, kids, or the house...we have actually been talking about us & things we would like to do or dreams we have. Plus DH & I have also been making alot more time for just the 2 of us. And when we have to go to the store or bank....DH & I go and leave SD15 & BS11 at home.
We had a pretty good weekend until today. SD11 was banging BD6's doll stroller around and broke it. I said to SD that she has to stop breaking things and she would be paying for a new stroller. She screamed at me, I couldn't understand what she said it was more like a loud high-pitched scream. I said "stop screaming at me" so she went to her room and slammed the door.
I was thinking of just letting her know about what the teachers are saying about his anger and low selfesteem which usually stems from a feeling of abandonment by BM and low feelings of selfworth as is often the case ecspecially with teen boys as "what is so wrong with me that even my own mother doesn't want me". Also a big reason he feels he needs to be hateful to both DH and I are to see if we will leave him too.
Usually I wouldnt say much when my SD6 is sick on the weekends she comes over but this situation is extremely annoying. Friday she is crying and crying for her BM. So I am trying to calm her down she is hysterical cause her BM said she couldnt stay home that weekend even though she had been running a fever since thursday morning because she had a superbowl party and she was going to get everyone sick. OMG what a wonderful mother. So saturday after an hour of crying, we made the BM a valentines day card because that is what she wanted to do.
Ok..Since i last was here a lot has happened. Me and now 16 daughter of BF are now talking and things seem to be fine. During a recent Psych Appt with BD she told counselor that she wishes to live with us when we buy a house. I agreed to this as long as she is not arguing with BM and it is because she wants to be with us and not as to hurt her BM. Since then BM and his 16yo have fought a few times and she has been kicked out of house 2 times now. They have reconciled after a few days and things seem fine currently.