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My story is super strange and little unusual to say the least. I grew up with both of my parents having the perfect "marriage" (20 year long marriage) up until I was like 11. They got divorced, it was totally unexpected and sudden for me and my sisters. (Have in mind that my dad had two sons with another woman before my mother, but they never lived together or got married) My dad had been cheating on my mom for years with this "new" woman and when they got divorced, he left our house and moved with her, had a child with her.
During the summer months we share joint custody with BM. Two weeks with her and two weeks with us. My question is... BM lives in the same town that I work in which is about 15 minutes from where DH and I live (50 minutes from where DH works). Our "meeting place" is also in the town where I work and BM resides. Does anyone know if there is a "law" or anything that would allow BM to refuse to let me pick up the kids on my way home from work rather than making DH drive after work since I am already going to be there?
I can't believe that we are so advanced in technology and psychology and stepparents are still rarely recognized. It is actually not common to have kids that have the same brothers and sisters with the same married, parents. I would think that blended families are soooo common that society was actually giving some recognition to the role.
Some of my observations are:
So,our Son (my SS) is on the glide path to HS graduation. It is touch and go as to whether he will graduate or not. His grades are good but the 10,000 pound elephant in the room is his Sr project. He turned in the research component of the assignement and passed. The whole project is P/F and is not assigned a grade.
I found it interesting today as I was looking at my husband's best friend's facebook page...he was "tagged" by his daughter (from his first marriage) in a photo...and old one at that, which means, she had to obviously scan it...of her dad, her mom and herself (she was bout 3, she is now 18)...and I wondered, is this normal?
The Stepmother's Support Group by Sam Baker - read about half of it on the train yesterday coming back from London and I'm absolutely loving it! Looks like it's not out in the US yet, but I'd seriously recommend it. My favourite quote so far (I'm only half way through):
"They call them blended families now"
"Blended? More like liquidised!"
I am not really new here. BM found me here (SS told her my screen name) and she used my blog against me in court saying I was hateful. Luckily, the judge was a stepmom herself and said she was sympathetic and my blogs weren't too derogatory - clearly the signs of frustration.
At the end of it the court, the judge also said that slander and defamation are something you can be held liable for but if we don't use names, it's just exercising freedom of speech.
One more great thing about being American I would say.
I found this site just a few days ago and I can't stay away from it. I have been with my boyfriend (BF) for 6 years, but split up three times. BF truley has the ex from hell - spawn of satan! BF has an only child and I have 4 children. We have many problems, most of our problems come from BF ex and his lack of putting BM in her place. I believe it is BM's goal to keep us apart and make our lives miserable.She doesnt want him and she has moved on and has another child with someone else.As you read this you will probably think that I am making it up, but I am not.
I read BM's messages to DH sometimes. She'd say things like she misses him. He has a family with her.
I made it clear that shit has to stop. He said, after much hesitation, that it has. I haven't snooped. Haven't checked his phone. Stopped caring.
Today, in the heat of an argument, I checked his phone.
No outgoing messages BUT a message from BM:
"I know. I miss you too."
I can't believe this. I don't know how to rationalize.
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