So while DH was not working, never did I hear MIL say, "hey, don't pay his child support, that's his business..." Quite the contrary, when I had my baby, she came over and harrassed the crap out of me asking "haven't you bought bows for her for your house, doesn't she have X at your house, blah, blah, blah..."

I always told my DH that I thought it was weird that his mom married his stepfather so soon after "allegedly" being abused by his real father...I mean, I just don't understand how someone who was beated (or so she claims), etc...remarries someone less than a year (not sure of exact dates) after she leaves the husband...but, whatever...her problem...

Now she tells starts asking me this weekend if I plan on getting a job...this is the second time in a month she's asked...I'm getting a bit pissed off about it...I told her that 1) her son would rather I stay home, 2) I homeschool our child and her son wants it to stay that way 3) I also have to take our son to therapies, dr appts, etc. every week and it's a bit hard having a job 4) although I don't still work, EVERY MONTH I HAVE TO TAKE MY MONEY OUT OF MY IRA TO PAY BILLS...thanks to the ex-witch, since I have supported our family and the idiot ex/daughter for at least 6 of the 10yrs... 5) if I find something I like, and we find a good school for our son, then I'll do it, as I did love working for 19+ years (more than she ever f#$% did and she had 3 kids to support that were not her husband's)

So out of the blue she says "when we lived in X house a woman once told me that my husband had 3 other kids"...and then said nothing else...I thought, ARE YOU KIDDING ME? You judged me for not wanting to support a child that was not mine, you didn't work and allowed your husband to support YOUR KIDS, and you didn't bother to find out if he indeed had 3 other kids for the last 30 years??? Aren't they his responsibility if this is indeed true? How dare you harrass me for not wanting to buy extras for his daughter, but she was allowed in our house, etc...and I paid CS for almost a year when he didn't work and you didn't have the decency to even find out if your husband left 3 kids as long as he supported YOUR KIDS from a previous marriage? Some women are just amazing...

Needless to say, I had once told my DH it was weird that his stepfather was older than his mother, and she was about 30 when she divorced and he didn't have any kids...just weird...and that as much as she complained and wanted us to always include her because family comes first, she has never included her husband's family in most things...So I told my DH, "hey, did you know about someone telling your mom your stepdad had other kids he "abandoned"?" He was in shock...never heard of it...Funny, the MIL always puts down his real dad for "abandoning them". yet didn't seem to be interested in finding out if her new hubby did the same, as long as HER kids were supported...

Needless to say, as hard as being at their house has been (they have a few acres in the mountains with a main house and two small houses they rent out-we are in one of the little houses), it's been great that my DH has seen her for what she is...after all the years of thinking she was this saint, she's quickly fallen off a pedestal...so has his stepfather to a certain degree...

No, my intent is not to cause problems, but it's rather funny how they did what they could to cause us problems for years, expected me to support the ex and daughter and are so freaking hipocritical...by the way, funny, she pays child support (100USD a month) for one of her other grandaughters, since her other son doesn't pay...she talks to him every day, sends him money to buy a car when he has needed it, etc...now, when my DH lost his job, she thought I was a witch for not buying extras, even though I paid the CS? She never gave us a dime! When our son was born we bought HER tickets to come see us, she treated us like dirt and bought our son "a box of formula"...

Sorry, just had to vent...some people are truly amazing and hipocrites...