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So my Sd is almost four (She turns four in June). She can not (or will not) use the potty. She will hold a bowel movement untill she is sick or she will hide when she poops in her pants and lie if we ask her about an accident. A good friend of mine, with four bio-kids of her own, is worried that there could be something physically wrong with her. I'm not sure if I should be worried.
I am going to start blogging for real. I have sugarcoated things more than I can stand. I can't pretend anymore or worry about what others will think. We have problems. UGGGHHHH!!! I am so exhausted.
Honestly I would rather my Nudger (to be born in July) to spend a weekend with my Sd's mom over my FIL. He has tried to get BM to fight his son (my dh) with him so he could take one of our two monthly weekends.
So I was wondering...in this crazy step world, is there anyone else out there who has tried to keep the crazies (even blood relatives) away from their kids? How sucessful can you be with this?
I don't want FIL anywhere near my baby.
I don't want SIL to have my child without me around.
I don't want FIL's girlfriend to even know the baby exists (too late).
So my SS8 has been asking DH and I for an Iphone since DH first got his (yr ago), then I got one 6 mos later. DH lets them play on his and they know not to touch mine. So for Xmas, both boys asked for one. One I dont think kids need cell phones until they start driving. Esp this young, who are they going to call?
I need advice...What happens if the SD14 decides she no longer wants to come here. She told her Dad that it didn't matter what he said she was 14 now and she can live where she wants. Does a 14 year old have that right.
BM was living with her mother for a few months this past year because she was filing for bankruptcy...which ended up being a ploy to play the victim for a few months...but whatever. We noticed SD4's attitude was getting terrible and she was bratty, demanding, and the things she would say blew us away. She was very obviously copying things older people would say to each other, down to the tone of voice. DF told me it was because of living with BM's mother (I'll call her GrandmaBM).
BM & I dont get along, we've never even spoke, mainly due to her. She didnt want her marriage to end. DH was miserable and left her, went back tried to make it work and then left for good. Met me shortly after and BM thought we had an affair. Meanwhile, I didnt even know DH till he left her. So she blames their failed marriage on me. I've tried rentlentlessly to tell her I didnt know him then but whatever, its not worth it to me anymore.
I had a slight epiphany. I know I'm not done feeling like sh*t yet, so we'll just say it's slight.
I am not really grieving my relationship with my H.
I am grieving the lost dreams I thought we shared yes...the man I thought I married yes...the love I thought we shared yes...
DH agreed that he'd be "assistant" coach instead of "head" coach for SS7's baseball team this spring.
For the last two seasons, he was "head" coach, and this meant that our weekends without the kids remained subject to SS's baseball schedule. It wouldn't be a big deal, BUT DH and I leave the city on weekends. During baseball, if DH is head coach we get trapped by the baseball schedule -- our weekend place is too far away to commute, so we have to stay in the city until baseball practice is over.
BM called me last night and said that she and her mum are going to go speak to all the children's parents. I asked her if it was ok for me to show SD the bullying movies I ordered and the activity sheets, BM said she would be grateful for that and wanted to know where she could order a set for herself. BM started to cry when I asked her if SD was ok, she was very upset because she had gone through this kind of thing when she was in middle/high school and really didn't want SD to go through it. I told BM that I would be here if she or SD needs me.
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