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How to write a notarized letter of agreement for this?

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We alternate years for claiming SS7. This year BM went ahead and claimed him on her taxes even though it wasn't her turn. It sucked because she screwed us out of $2400. We know that we could hold her in contempt of the stipulation, and that we could get her to amend her taxes, etc, but she agreed to let us claim him for two years in a row.

However, I we have been burned by her verbal agreements before so we want to get this in writing and get it signed by a notary. How would I word such a thing? Does this sound fine?

What would you do? Call CPS? Let it go?

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We had some issues with daycare, so BM decided that until the end of the school year, she would pick up the skids (10 and 7) from school and then let them hang out at her apartment alone until she got home from work or we picked them up on our days. DH agreed with this arrangement, as long as it was temporary. I do not agree with this. I do think SD10 is responsible enough on her own for a little while, since she does have a phone, too. But I do not think she should be in charge of anyone else.

Anyone with children with Aspergers here?

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I'm curious -- if you have a child/stepchild with Aspergers...
1) Did they first get diagnosed with ADHD/ADD then later diagnosed with Aspergers? (I have read this is common)
2) Did you suspect it was Aspergers, and why? (What were the telltale signs for you?)
3) How long did the process take for diagnosis? (From first pediatrician visit to diagnosis)

BM claimed SS7 even though it was our turn...what can we do?

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Our stipulation states that we take turns every other year claiming SS on our taxes. This was our year. We filed this week and got a call the next morning that SS was already claimed. DH told BM that she was wrong and she said "Oops, my bad. You can just claim him the next two years in a row."

Anyone have an SO with a very heavy work schedule? How do you deal?

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I'm 30 weeks pregnant right now and feeling stressed and overwhelmed about everything, so I'm trying to determine whether it's the hormones or something real I can change. DH and I have BS3 together and then every other week we have his kids (7 and 9). DH works straight commission sales, so he works many more hours than he is scheduled to work for fear of losing a sale, or his day is based on appointments that are sometimes really long. I know he's a very hard worker and I feel bad making him feel guilty at all, because I know that he'd much rather be at home than at work.

Does anyone else have problems with guilty daddy ignoring mutual children in favor of his skids?

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My DH and I had our only child together 3 years ago now. We have EOW schedule with skids (6 & 9). I feel like every 6 months or so I well up with anger at my husband because he doesn't do anything for BS3 or spend ANY time with him. He works a lot so I totally understand that when he gets home he wants to relax. But if we go to the park, dad plays with skids, not BS (unless they're all playing the same thing of course). At home, DH won't do anything to help BS out like pick out clothes or help with shoes, get a glass of water when he asks...unless I ASK him to do it.

The every Sunday "wait"...

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We have skids EOW, exchange day is Sunday. Here is the scenario when BM has already had the kids her week and it's Sunday: 11am text "When are you getting kids? I have plans."

Here is the scenario when it's the following Sunday, after we have had the skids:

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(Yep, that's a whole lot of silence!)

What would you do? SS7 stashing used pull ups...

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I'm so beyond grossed out right now. SS7 still needs to wear pull ups at night. We have tried everything but can't seem to make anything stick -- but that's not the issue here. He knows the first rule of the morning is to take off his pull up the moment he wakes up and throw it away. This has been the rule since he was able to do this... Like 3 years old. His 3 year old brother (my BS) knows this and does so as well.

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