Does anyone else have problems with guilty daddy ignoring mutual children in favor of his skids?
My DH and I had our only child together 3 years ago now. We have EOW schedule with skids (6 & 9). I feel like every 6 months or so I well up with anger at my husband because he doesn't do anything for BS3 or spend ANY time with him. He works a lot so I totally understand that when he gets home he wants to relax. But if we go to the park, dad plays with skids, not BS (unless they're all playing the same thing of course). At home, DH won't do anything to help BS out like pick out clothes or help with shoes, get a glass of water when he asks...unless I ASK him to do it. And then he wonders why when BS is hurt he will only come to me!! DH will take skids with him to the store but acts like it's a chore to take BS (mind you, he is actually the BEST kid to take shopping...he gets compliments from strangers all the time for how good he is!). This weekend DH took SS6 out with him about 4 times to go golfing/the shooting range etc. he never, ever takes BS anywhere with him to do anything special with JUST him, even though we have him all by himself with no skids every other week!
I am irked right now bc I had to do a quick run to the grocery store, just as BS was getting ready to nap. DH said to BS (bc he started to cry while I was leaving) that he would lay with him and they could snuggle and fall asleep. BS said ok... So I was surprised DH offered that but also happy for BS to get some snuggle time in with daddy. I was gone 15 min and get home and DH is in our basement with Ss6 playing video games with BS laying by himself (awake watching tv) upstairs. Grrrr.
I just feel bad for BS that he will grow up to think his dad loves SS better or something. :(. They are not close at all. Every time I bring this up to DH (like I said, every 6 months or so) he gives me excuses like "well he doesn't ever WANT to go anywhere with me of you are here," or "well a 3 year old can't golf..." Or "he is just so young there isn't much we can do together". I tell him HE WOULD LOVE to just play in his room with you!!! Take him to the park by yourself! Etc... All the things I do with him whole DH is at work!
Anyway...when I bring this up, things change for a couple weeks but then they go back. any thoughts on what I can do to help this "stick"??