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Is this just a guy thing? FDH has no idea how much time has elapsed....

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FDH was cleaning out our deep freeze, and pulled out some pork chops from the very bottom. He said, "Ooooh, remember when you made these and they were so good? You should do that again." I stared at him...okay probably glared at him. I said "I have NEVER EVER EVER in my life made pork chops. I don't like them, therefore I would NEVER EVER EVER make them, much less BUY them."

Those with EOW - how do you handle school paperwork/info between households?

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Do you save everything up for the whole week and send it to the other parent's house when they go back? Or do you just let each other know if something is important?

What about school projects...lets say you get something on a Thursday that needs to be done by the end of the next week. Do you try to get it done right away or do you let the other parent take care of it because it's due the week they have the skid?

This is new territory for us so I'd love suggestions on what is best!

All the little things BM does annoy the SH** out of me! How do I get them to just roll off my back?

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You know how when someone annoys you/bothers you (ahem, you can't stand them!), EVERY LITTLE THING they do drives you nuts? This is how I feel about BM. It's like there are these little things she does that in itself is really not a big deal....but all these little things add up to the MOUNTAIN of evidence that she only cares of #1 (herself, of course!).

Basically, I reallyyyyy wish these things didn't get to me. How do I stop that? How do I just let go of them and let them roll off my back when they happen? Advice?

SS4's birthday party yesterday.

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I got to the daycare birthday party for SS4 after FDH was already there and BM wasn't there yet. I scoped out the seating situation and decided she'd be mad at me if I sat in the stool next to SS4, so I sat in the only available chair left. (It's a very small at home daycare, just Baby, SS4, and 2 other girls go there).

SS4's birthday today!

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Last week we asked BM if we could do a joint birthday party at Chuckie Cheese or something. She said "Um, that'd be awkward." FDH said, "Get over this already." and she said she'd think about it. We see her almost every day at daycare pick up/drop off. It's not like we don't interact with her on a regular basis. And she demanded to come to our house and hold my baby when he was born. How was THAT not awkward for her but this would be?

My emails with BM this afternoon.....at a loss for what to do next.

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If you've followed my backstory, please read on. If you haven't, you might be confused. FYI we are on week #3 of moving to an EOW schedule, which is more days a week than our stipulation says. It is 23 days til our wedding, and we have a 6 month baby. SD6 is not FDH's child.

Email from me to BM:
Hey there,

I just wanted to give you a heads up because I'm fairly certain that FDH hasn't talked to you about our issue with next week. He's trying to work it out but by the time he figures stuff out, it will be really late notice for you.

SteppingUp will do it, don't worry....

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I feel like I've been here before...oh wait. I have.

Next week is our week on with the skids, Sunday-Sunday. FDH and his boss had some sort of miscommunication, so instead of working early shifts next week he is closing EVERY day...which means that SteppingUp has to pick up the skids and baby, do everything each night, and then FDH gets to come home at 9:30 when all the kids are already in bed and relax, plus of course sleep in and chillax each morning until 1pm.

FDH let BM's mom take SS on our weekend. DUMB!

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We have been keeping track of days when BM is supposed to have her kids but ships them off to grandma's or has a babysitter so she can go out (she only has the skids 50% of the time so why does she need to go out on her days with them?). On Friday I go to pick up BS and SS3 because we have him for the weekend.

Wouldn't you want to at least talk to your children if you didn't see them for a week?

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This is round #2 of our new every other week schedule. BM doesn't even call the kids to see how they're doing.

Can you imagine suddenly going an entire week without your children and you don't even call to talk to them?

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