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I have not been on this site for a while and i felt it was about time i visited again, i re-read my old blogs and realised i am still living them. Nothing has changed. I am still the last person my husband considers when it comes to the skids. He has a gambling and drinking problem and we have no money left and yet on extra days he can work he can take his kid to their sports even though it is not his access weekend. While i am at home doing nothing with our baby because we have no money. I work full time too. But when i get upset about this he accuses me of being jealous of his kids.
Tonight I went to baseball practice with SS9.
I have tossed the ball with him, taught him to catch, encouraged him. Dh has spent double this time.
DH took SS11 to a Boy Scout event to earn his Swimming badge.
BM called SS9 (most likely because SS11 didn't answer his and SS9 is second to SS11, always).
I have a follow-up question to the one I posed about this earlier in the week-- most folks who replied said to be open to talking with him, to feel good about him wanting to open up.
FH told me that SS wants to talk with me about when I argue with his dad. I am kind of pissed (or is it defensive?) about this for a number of reasons:
Tonight I told my sons if they couldn't monitor themselves (content and time spent) on the computer I would put the parental controls for times back on and they would have to ask me. I finally let them have access whenever they want, and it's reached a point where they're on it non flippin' stop.
So BS15 says, "Why do I even have to come here." And "If that's how you're going to be then I don't want to come here."
This sums up in a nutshell why it sucks for kids to have two houses.
They feel forever as though they have another option.
I am SO SICK to death of this and I'm wondering if anyone else out there can relate.
Everytime a location in the state we live (which is a vaction and popular wedding place) comes up in any way, shape, or form, SD HAS to declare it's where MOMMY AND DADDY GOT MARRIED!!!! It is really, really starting to drive me up the wall.
For a long long time i felt terribly guilty about the feelings i have towards my wifes son.when i met her he was 7,i heard that his father passed away before he was born.......i felt terrible for him.My wife and i got serious and the first years i did everything in my power to make him feel comfortable with me.I made it a point to take him to see movies,arcades,buy clothes,mcdonalds,help with his homework.......everything.....But i always felt something wasnt right....When he turned ten my son was born.The best day of my life.But i still made it a point to spend time with ss.
Adult SS 35 contacts H after 1 year refusal to talk. He is calling he says on behalf of his sister SD 33 because his BD did not call SD 33 on her birthday! H tells him that no he had not because SD 33 had refused to talk to him since last year and had actually told him she liked things better without having to "deal" with him!
It's been approximately 3.5 weeks now that BM has changed her cell phone number & SS11's cell phone number [preventing DH from being able to contact his son]. We live about 700 miles away from BM & SS11, so it makes it even harder on DH when he's unable to talk to his son. Okay, BM is the epitome of 'Baby-Mam-Drama' & I'm strongly convinced that she's a functioning bipolar candidate. It's been 4-years since our move to our new hometown [and BM & her drama was one of the main reasons for the move, of my trying to gain peace in my life].
Hi everyone,
Like many of you, _Stepmonster_ proved to me to be an invaluable resource when I was first getting into this family-blending thing about 9 months ago. I still revisit it when I need to not feel crazy. However, I recently found these two resources that I wanted to share:
1) The National Stepfamily Resource Center
http://www.stepfamilies.info/
This is a great website, with many many links. Has info about support groups for stepfamilies all over the country.
So bf's ex hasn't let him have his regular access for 6 weeks now and he hadn't seen them at all. Until this the longest he'd ever gone without seeing them since the day they were born was 10 days.
Yesterday he stopped by the babysitters to spend a few minutes with them, to reassure them that the separation was not HIS doing. Ex told them that daddy was 'too sick' to see them, a total lie, she's stopped access to extort more money.
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