Welcome to the StepTalk Blogs!
Create your own personal blog and start sharing what's on your mind. Blogs are your own personal space for venting, asking questions, sharing your experiences, posting your favorite recipes, discussing your favorite shows, etc. This is your space to use as you please. You can manage your own blog posts as well as control the commenting on them.
When posting blogs, remember to add meaningful tags to your posts in order to help others find your blog posts when searching. This also helps you find your blogs later. Tags are fully searchable and allow you to organize your blogs.
Start your blog now!
Recent Blog Posts
So H and I had "THE" talk lastnight where I FINALLY aired out all of my grievances about our situation and why I suggested that we separate a couple days ago or go to counseling to try to fix things after he expressed that he really didn't want to separate and wanted to try to work it out. It actually went surprisingly well. Similar to the other night where I expressed that I wanted to separate - it was very mature - no yelling, arguing or cussing - there was some crying, but that's to be expected.
We now have 10 English Bulldogs in our home. My oldest baby girl had 6 puppies last night. She started the first stages of labor around 8:00pm, so I had to stay up with her so we could get her to the vet when it was time. Her visible contractions started around 12:30am & the vet met us at the clinic at 1:30am for the cesarean.
DH is home with her today & tomorrow to make sure things are good with them. I'm running on no sleep & can't wait to get home & lay my head on my pillow.
I am very interested in first impressions and how people put their own "spin" on things. I was thinking about the beginning of the book, "No One's the Bitch". The step-mother and the mother have completely different stories/memories about the first time they ever met...and the authors use this as their way to get you to see that everyone comes in to a situation with a different pair of eyes.
I am a bag of complete nerves. The BM has a bad habit of taking the kids away and giving them back and recently they were taken away for a whole year. Now I have done alot for all parties involved and felt completely used because in the courts things were said about me that I would have never dreamed of and now I am feeling like nothing will ever be right. The eldest SD is in therapy and so the DH goes and visits with the therapist ever so often to talk to her about his daughter.
DH just sent me this...
Your son has a mind like a steel trap, and it may interfere in your desire to take it easy tonight. We were walking through the kitchen this morning and he said, “Mommy and I are going to bake a cake tonight!” I explained to him that Mommy isn’t feeling very well and may not be able to do it tonight. His answer: “But a piece of cake would make her feel better!”
Our BS will be 3 next month and is too smart for his own good.
[edit] I've removed some information from the post for privacy reasons [edit]
Just wondering what your thoughts are on whether you think it's harder for step mums rather than step dads?
I reckon step mums find it harder to adjust to the situation than stepdads. I know in my case i do get jealous, emotional and feel pissed off that BM had my bf's first child...I think perhaps stepdads dont get as emotional as this??
And so..it seems as if nothing of mine is mine anymore-not even my blogs...and so I can't blog anymore without fear of it being read.
I guess it is only right as due to my circumstances I am no longer officially a member of the StepTalk club. I want to thank you all for your kindness during my short stay here..some of your stories made me so sad and I only hope theres a much brighter life out there for all of you.
So SD14 has decided she doesn't want to come for visitation EOWE anymore. Do we have any legal standing to make her adhere to the court order? SD12 and SS11 still come, but SD12 doesn't like to be without SD14 and I worry that eventually dumbass BM will convince them all the they don't have to come over. When we talked to a police officer about it they said that as long as BM brings the kids to the child exchange then there is no violation of the court order, they said that if she refuses to get out of the car there is nothing they can do. Does this sound right?
I swear i am going to flip, really do not know how much else i can stand from this woman. Got an email from BM that she has dropped her health and dental insurance as of THREE MONTHS AGO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She gave some excuse about not being able to have double coverage on the kids which of course is bullshit! Guess that is one way to get rid of the Dr. level family therapist that is not willing to say that we are abusive with my ss13.
Pages
