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Back to how it was but trying to start fresh!!

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Hey I used to come on here quite a lot but for the past few months things have been a bit easier. Basically I have a SD7 who thankfully I get on great with, truth is we couldn't really get on much better BUT the situation is still hard. BM loves drama (she has 5 kids with 3 diff men and another on the way with a fourth man!!), my DH only gets one day a week off work, I have my own personal issues so there are plenty of things which make a difficult situation even more complicated.

Possible to be a good dad & a good partner?

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Something I've been thinking about over the last few weeks and it applies to step-families only because I think if you're still with the mother/father to your kids then it comes naturally.

In a step-situation do you think it is possible for a man to be a good dad to his child as well as being a good partner to his wife?

Should my bf contribute towards SD5 holiday with BM

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BM is taking SD5 to spain for a week in august with her new husband and their children. She phoned my bf asking if he can contribute towards SD5s fare...is this right? I feel it's being a bit rude to ask him to pay for SD5 to go on holiday with BM and her new man!!

My bf pays weekly maintainance as well as buying most of her clothes, shoes, school uniform etc.

Any thoughts plz

Was I wrong to text BM?

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Long story but on the weekend there was an argument between my bf and BM and as a result SD5 only came over for a few hours, rather than for the whole day. I thought it would be nice if SD could come over one evening this week to make up for the missed time and to surprise my bf when he came in from work. BM doesnt like me for some reason so I thought really carefully about how I worded the message, I was genuinely trying to help and wasnt trying to cause trouble. I wrote:

Harder for step dads or step mums?

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Just wondering what your thoughts are on whether you think it's harder for step mums rather than step dads?

I reckon step mums find it harder to adjust to the situation than stepdads. I know in my case i do get jealous, emotional and feel pissed off that BM had my bf's first child...I think perhaps stepdads dont get as emotional as this??

Where do you pick your SK up from?

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I've been with my bf for 2yrs and SD5 comes over EOW. At first my bf always used to pick up and drop off SD from BMs house but in the last 6-7 months BM keeps asking my bf to pick her up from different places (her friends, her grandads, the shops, basically where ever BM is). At first it wasnt a problem and bf didnt mind but lately its happening every time we pick her up and BM only calls about 30mins before we're supposed to pick SD up!

Going to try to be on my best behaviour this weekend

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Ok so for the last 5 or 6 times sd5 has come round for the weekend there's been an argument...mainly due to me feeling left out and generally being over sensitive. It's got to the point where I dread sd5 coming because I know there's going to be an argument. She's coming round sat night and leaving sunday night...im going to try really hard not to over-react and try to have an argument-free weekend for a change!

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