Today SD14 calls me from school at 10 after 3 to ask if she can go hang out at the mall with her friends. The bus has already come and gone and she knows that this is not something that DH and I would normally let her do last minute. She has no cell phone with her, she is calling me from the school office. I am at home, both my little ones are in bed napping, and I am in the middle of a mountain of homework. I am extremely irritated by all of this and tell her absolutely not and that I will be there immediately to pick her up.

Ok, the situation is....SD12 will not speak to me, look at me, be in the same room as me, use any gift she thinks I had a hand in picking out, etc. In short she pretends I'm not alive and makes her hatred of me very clear. I KNOW this is a problem for me more so in regards to DH's lack of response to it, not her actual behavior. I KNOW she is a child, I KNOW she will push as far as allowed. My own children, as all children do, sometimes are lacking in manners, have a burst of disrespectfulness, forget their place. So I see her behaviors as age appropriate misbehavior.

So, for going on 9 years now, BM has been telling everyone how I'm such a witch. Well, my dad has spent a lot of time going through our family history, & it turns out, I get it honest. I'm related to a Mary Bliss Parsons, who was accused of being a witch in the Salem witch trials back in the 1600's. She was, however, aquitted. I hope one day I am too. Heeheehee!

I am really starting to wonder if things will ever "settle" down with regards to BM. It always seems just when things start going good and we get into a groove, something comes up to throw it all out of whack. Their divorce was finalized just this past march, after a 3 year battle, then just last week BM decided that SS3 needed to be with BF more often because she can't stand the sight of him and he pisses her off because SS reminds her too much of BF, so it's back to court they go.