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So... the Friday before the Memorial Day weekend the BF and I take his son8 to a doctor specializing in austism cases. All went well...she basically confirmed what we've been telling BM about his diet and supplements. The next step is to get extensive bloodwork and some urine tests.
We're hoping that once we get the results back and with the Doctor's recommendations, the BM will finally cooperate. The boy8 responds so well and is much more receptive and alert when we have him for the summer and put him on the GF/CF diet and give him supplements.
So finally getting around to posting about the weekend. I swear we sail through the school week fine but as soon as the weekend comes drama starts. Some of it is that SD8 is all about how much fun stuff we are going to do with her... She really loves spending time with us and that's nice cause I'm sure in a few years she won't. But she hasn't learned when to quit it cause dad & stepsoftly are tired and need to wind down. Is that a parenting thing rather than a stepparenting thing? Probably but I wouldn't know.
On Sunday afternoon following another tough weekend with SS7 acting out and getting yelled at nonstop by DH, we finally got the family to sit down and quietly watch "The Sound of Music." SS7 wasn't very interested, but SD5 and I were enjoying it, cuddling on the sofa and singing together.
But, suddenly -- SS7 comes alive during the scene where the captain breaks his engagement -- when the rejected woman is sadly walking away, SS7 looks at me and says, loudly, "That's you in the future."
Once again I need an opinion from others on whether we are over reacting or not. Skids were with BM all weekend, and we got them last night. SS2.5 is COVERED in bug bites. Not kidding, COVERED. There is barely an inch of his body that is clear - there are 15 alone on his face and we counted close to 40 on his back, and didn't even bother with his legs and feet. He was crying and crying last night because he was itchy so we went out and bought him itch cream and it seemed to help.
I have a question about how the vacation time works per the custody order. It says that each parent has 7 consecutive days vacation with SS every year. However, when we are trying to use our vacation time it ends up being longer then the 7 days because of the ways that the normal scheduled days with him. We have him everyone Sunday evening, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, and every other Thursday. The vacation we are talking about taking we would leave on Monday and come back the following Monday, however, when we return it is still our days.
I am not enjoying my summer vacation. I don't even feel like I fit in my own home.
As a teacher, I always look forward to my time off in the summer to do craft projects and home improvement projects. But since Loghead lost his job in December, there really isn't money to do those things this year.
My BF didn't want his divorce, BM did. I understand him being angry about losing his marriage and not being able to see SD every day.
They have a 50/50 custody situation and are big into "coparenting". The thing is, if you have issues related to differences on child rearing which contributed to your divorce, how are you REALLY supposed to coparent effectively?
My parents got a divorce when I was young, I was nine, my brother was 6. BOTH parents, my Dad and my Mom gave us THE Speech. To this day I think THE Speech is the reason my brother and I had no divorce issues. They both told us "its over, we are never getting back together, we all need to move on". I knew my Dad didn't really mean what he said, but saying it really helped us get over things quicker I feel. We knew it wasn't ever going to be again and that was that. They didn't sugarcoat ANYTHING. They both told us the truth when we asked something, even if the truth was bad.
I love having my SS's here that is not the problem but the way that BM treats them differently is what I consider abusive.
My husband's court battle is scheduled for a hearing at the end of the month. His oldest son is 16 yrs. old and lives with us fulltime with every other weekend visits with biomom. His younger brother is 13 yrs. old and lives with his biomom with the opposite schedule.
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