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And it Begins again

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My husband's court battle is scheduled for a hearing at the end of the month. His oldest son is 16 yrs. old and lives with us fulltime with every other weekend visits with biomom. His younger brother is 13 yrs. old and lives with his biomom with the opposite schedule.

SS10 at the time moved in with his mother a few years ago after his mother accused us of abuse. At the time my biological children were being forced to go through a custody battle with my ex-inlaws. Ex GP's were attempting to gain custody of my 4 biological children after the death of their father. (In WIS. after the death of a parental figure it is in the legal books that the grandparents can gain custodial rights over the biological children of their child) I had always had primary placement of the 4 children, they had never lived with anyone other than myself, there were no legal/criminal issues, no drinking/drugs and my husband and myself work within the fields of law enforcement/child protection and field of therapy; both my husband and I had undergone parental evaluations by not one but 2 evaluators (guess the ex-inlaws didn't like the results of the 1st test). (It is NOT like we are low lifes, the ex-GP's even told the GAL that we were great parents but that the law allowed them to become parental figures and that is what they were demanding) It has been one court battle after another. SSBM has accused myself and my husband of abuse. These claims are an every other week event. It does not seem to matter that her oldest along with our 4 other children live in the home without issue over the past 10 years. We have court orders that she doesn't follow and I am fed up. BM took advantage of the fact that we were financially tied up in a court battle that was headed to the WI supreme court to get my H to agree to have his youngest move in with her. We verbally got her to agree to therapy and truly believed that once ss got in to see someone everything would be cleared up. We set up an apt. for three weeks in a row and she refused to allow SS to attend. A few years ago in an attempt to put the stop to this nonscence we went to court and got it written into the order that family therpy was ordered and that biomom and SS are ordered to attend as requested by the therapist. She also stated in court that she would provide transportation for therapy which she has NEVER DONE. Round trip is almost 150 miles. She has been found in contempt several times, she refuses therapy and has now been able to get SS over the past 2 years to state that he is the one refusing to come to H's home for visitation and that he is refusing to attend therapy. When we have gotten him we have video and witnesses that he has a blast. He runs in the room and gives hugs, even ran up to me in the middle of the grocery store on Thanksgiving and gave me a big hug in the middle of a group of stranges. (not many 13year old boys do that) How do we make this stop. We are out of money, gave up the house and purchased a much lower cost one, put up the truck to fund the attorney. Thank God that my ex passed away or life would really suck.