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Well, I planned to spend Christmas Eve with my family (it's my mom's bday) and Christmas Day with BF and the kids, but things didn't work out that way. Due to a series of unforeseen events (mostly people having to work extra hours around the holidays), my family decided to gather on Christmas Day instead. BF already arranged to have the kids on Christmas Day only, so BM could have Christmas Eve. I was a little sad that I couldn't spend Christmas with BF and the kids, but I saw them in the morning before I drove up to see my family.
Ok so in my last blog about this I said that bm said that ss15 hates dh b/c it is all dh's fault that bm is disabled for leaving her as a single mom and she had to work for about a year 5 years ago. And b/c of all the sacrifices she has had top make being a single mom combined with her working for a year is dh's fault and ss15 hates dh b/c of that.
You all really helped me to determine what was most important last week. So I found a sex tape. (See the original post from last week here: http://www.steptalk.org/node/37426) We all have histories. I completely trust my DF. I found the tape in a place that he RARELY ever goes, which is evident by all the crap in that drawer. It was a complete mistake/coincidence that I found it, and it was completely my own mistake for having the searing curiousity to look at the damned thing.
Well this year improved: SS addressed a Christmas card to both of us thanking us for helping him year round. He gave DH and I both thoughtful gifts that didn't break his bank, which is good-- he has champagne taste with a water budget. My 3 bios each gave us a card along with thoughtful gifts. The girls wrote very thoughtful and thankful words in DH's card--thanking him for brightening their lives and helping throughout the year.
this does not involve skids, or bkids, or parents on either side, but my best friends son who is a COMPLETE jack a$$! when my dh and i "babysit" the kids they are good but they also know we're not catering to the bs son throws-as long as parents are not there, we have control over them and they are good. they came over for Christmas and wern't there 5 MIN and her son started in and omg mom and dad let him argue and be a complete jerk off.
My SS has been gone for 3 days so far and will not be back for about 5 more days. This is only the third time he has been away from the house and the longest he has been away since he moved in a year ago. OMG…it has been heaven!!!!
DH's son began calling & talking to DH probably once every couple of weeks back in November. He called for the first time in over a year on DH's birthday. He called again a few weeks later & told DH that he hated him for several reasons (I blogged about it previously) & they ended up talking about SS wanting to come spend a few hours with DH & his family on Christmas Eve. They talked a few times back & forth. SS was to talk to BM about it & let DH know. When they talked last Tuesday, SS said he'd call the day before Christmas Eve to let us know for sure.
ok so christmas day when my dh went to get my skids for Christmas, my daughter decided to talk to me about a problem.
And little to none into actually taking care of and raising the kids?
I came on here to vent about the BM in my situation spending way too much time manipulating everyone into believing she is the perfect parent while simultaneously neglecting my SS.
Looking through the posts on here I see that the BM wasting energy on making their ex's look bad is a common theme . . .
Why? :?
Hi there - just joined this group. Wish I'd found this years ago. Feel like I'm finally at the point where I gotta vent. Spent thousands of dollars and hundreds of hours in counseling over the last 5 years or so, so I'm well on the way to learn the disengaging bit. Sux, doesn't it? But, so goes the life of a step parent. Or perhaps better described as a non-entity. Married my DH about five and a half years ago. About 5 years ago, the BM dies of cancer, so SS (then 13) and SD (then 10) come to live with us full time. My BD is 17 at the time.
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