Do You Feel Like an Outsider With Your Stepchildren?
by Ron L. Deal and Laura Petherbridge
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by Ron L. Deal and Laura Petherbridge
My kids will come to me after SS has done something else that is stupid, and can’t believe that nothing happens to him. (Discipline) They always joke that SS would not have made it to 17 if he would have been my kid. Lol.
Brings me to this morning. My son is at school and I run by house at 10:00AM. SS is still there. Following conversation takes place….
I know it could always be worse. Believe me, I know. Just let me vent....sometimes I seriously wonder what normal, middle-class people with kids (and skids) are supposed to do. We don't qualify for any assistance because we are a whopping $100 dollars/month over the eligibility cap for food stamps or WIC.
After figuring bills out for after the baby comes, and after I go back to work, we'll only have about $75 left a month to spend on gas and groceries. Wow.
Ok, so 2 weekends ago, SD11 went with BF to work for a 12 hour shift... he wanted to spend time with her. She asked to go. I have asked to stop by for lunch like I used to, he said it was a bad idea because they have gotten into trouble for it. So she can spend all day there??
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We never had enough money for a honeymoon last year. We are going this year.
In conversation discussing renewing our vows and going on honeymoon right away. Dh say's yes I want the kids with us of course. I would love having them with us. This is including the evil one he refuses too admit is dangerous to our baby who we will take with us because we don't have childcare.
Just got bad news...we should have expected this but for some reason we were in la-la land.
Fiance gets a hefty tax return every year because he works a ton of overtime. He also gets a profit sharing bonus in February. This year, he gets to also claim his son, SS3 (they flip-flop years to claim him). He was anticipating a total sum of at least $7,000 with all of this.
I went over to the BM's parents house last night with DH to tell them they werent going to see the kids for awhile. The fat, nasty bitch BM walks in the door. She has a scowl on her face the whole time. My DH confronts all of them about why when SS9 gets home from his visits there he is all upset with me and says he doesnt like me and seems depressed. The bitch BM says "I NEVER say anything about her at all. All I tell him is how much I love him." My BD5 also has spent most of her life visiting that family (mind you BM was never in the picture).
Take time out, do something nice for yourself today, pat yourself on the back, smile and know you are appreciated!
This is my first post, so sorry for the length. To sum up things, I am the sm to 4, who live with their bm's (I have 2 ... yes TWO... crazy bm to deal with) anyway, two ss live near us and they visit regularly. But my youngest ss and sd live very far away and I have yet to even meet them because of long drawn out court battles and fleeing with kids etc.
I posted a blog about SS starting to call & talk, very bluntly & honestly with DH before Christmas. He expressed a desire to spend some time with us on Christmas Eve, but we never heard back, so it never happened.
We were hopeful that his very frank & honest comments were signs that he was beginning to do some real soul-searching & that perhaps he was at a point where he was ready to start making an effort to heal his relationship with DH.