Last night I once again found myself cuddled up under my favorite comforter Googling "Running Away as an Adult". I have no immediate plans to "run away" from my life, however, I did decide to work harder toward creating a life I actually love and therefore simultaneously prepare myself for a future on my own if that day ever comes.
So, yesterday I worked really hard to disengage from the SD16 drama and her first day back to HS. I ended up having an awesome day working, cooking (which I actually find enjoyable), and even found a little time for MR. ED and I to run errands together while enjoying an open air jeep ride. Good stuff.
I have been venting a lot since I started blogging on ST and naturally much of it is negative. On a positive note, I've also been reading A LOT of what you fine folks have to say and with your help, have been learning more about disengaging. Well, SD16 (the only one at home f/t) started back to school this morning and although I have had a couple of hiccups, I feel MUCH less stress having ramped up the disengagement. This is hard for me because I was admittedly a Mama Bear to my BS during his school years, I've been responsible for helping get SKIDS (particularly the girls) ready for the
What general advice do you have for separating yourself from that feeling of wanting to right all the wrongs of the seriously dysfunctional BM/BD? I know its especially difficult if you are/were a conscientious parent with your own biokids.
I was super anxious leading up to SD16s return from her Florida trip, so I figured I'd delay writing about it until it happened and the potential fall out began. Well, it's interesting how things are going.
I didn't write Part 2 yesterday because I decided to leave the chaos surrounding SD16 lie for a minute and try to have a great day. I scooped up puppy and took him on work errands away from home. I'm glad I did!
I'm writing two separate blogs today because I need to vent about 2 separate dramas playing out. Oh, and SO will forevermore be referred to as "MR. ED". He's like a good horse living in a shed with blinders on away from the reality of SKIDS behavior!
Does anyone else out there feel like somewhere along your stepparent journey your life got swept up in a monsoon of other people's dysfunction? I was single for over 10 years and fiercely dedicated to raising my DS and living my best, most emotionally healthy, peaceful, and happy life. Then I fell in love with BF/SO and we have been living together and sharing our life for 6 years now. SO has 5 kids...SD22, SD20, SD16, SS15, and SS10...3 BMs. Yeah, I should've known better, right? I actually started this out with such hope and was positive that we would all bring great things to each o