I saw another post about this that got me thinking about the issue. I've seen people here get WICKED about when SMs call their SKs "ours" or "mine". Sometimes I think it is ABSOLUTELY valid but other times I think people jump the gun.. I don't think its automatically a bad thing depending on circumstances.
Let me give both sides.
BM has had SD9 almost 100% of the time ever since I made it clear to both my SO and BM that I'm not a free babysitter. It really confirmed what I had thought all along that all of BMs "I can't" days... weeks....were really just "I'm too lazy and I only want to be a mom when its convenient".
My sd's bm is an awful parent.. Doesn't believe in manners, brushing teeth or hair, cannot enforce any boundaries, doesn't care about schooling, let's her eat sweets all day..... It goes on... Its killing me as I love her like she's my own.... Any tips please
My Boyfriend and I have been living together for about 8 months. He has 3 children (Boy-age 14, Girl-age 10, and Girl-age 6)and I have two children (Girl-age 17 and Boy-age 11).
I am admittedly pretty strict with my kids when it comes to cleaning up after themsleves, not back talking, and taking responsibilty for themselves and their actions. My boyfriend on the other hand, not so much!
<p>I have been with this man since his son was 6-8 months old I have a son of my own that was around 5 or 6 when we got together now my son is turning 8 this year and his son is almost 1 1/2 years old and we had 2 girls together one is 1 year and 3 months the other is 3 months old. He and his ex wife share split custody and he seems to get whinier as he gets older and now he's starting to back talk and have attitude. I don't look forward to him coming over at all and I want to change that but have tried unsuccessfully.
Okay so here goes( a bit lengthy)
DH seems oblivious to SS12 manipulations. When I bring it up he makes excuses for SS12 and tells me he is a good kid.
The past few weekends and days he has been "forgetting" his bookbag(with homework) at BM house. DH gives lecture about how important homework is then does nothing but spends hundreds of dollars on the kid and lets him play videogames.
His grades are slipping. DH gives lecture but refers kid to me for privileges such as videogames.