A question for all veteran SPs...
What general advice do you have for separating yourself from that feeling of wanting to right all the wrongs of the seriously dysfunctional BM/BD? I know its especially difficult if you are/were a conscientious parent with your own biokids.
I'm assuming we all care about SKIDS, but where's that line? That has been the hardest thing for me. I always say, "I'm not their mom, but I am A MOM and its hard to shut off that instinct with kids who are sometimes in my care." I know I have to shut it off sometimes, though and I'm working on more disengagement. I would love to hear your thoughts about how you got to that point of separating your instincts from your actual responsibility with SKIDS.
Any helpful books would be welcome, too!