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This is a small thing compared to what some of you are dealing with...but I'm aggrevated and want to let it out.
You all know the stink that's gone down because of oldest SD. The latest being she's barely speaking with her father over her snotty 'we'll see' comment and talking youngest into having 1 shower instead of having me handle a shower for the Dad's side (like I was asked to do) and oldest doing one for the Mom's side... Shouldn't be a big deal..but oldest was going to withhold the grandchildren and initially refused to visit with us over the holidays..over it.
I was just wondering, what the general philosophy should be in your opinion when it comes to problems with spiteful exes. Should we take an eye for an eye, or turn the other cheek? There are some days that I would LOVE to take BM to court over a fraction of the things that she's done just like she's doing to us, but then I feel like that may only hurt things and we should just sit back and let her ruin her reputation and spend all of her money on court costs and attorney fees. That's just one example but I'm sure you guys can come up with dozens more. What do you think?
I have tried time and time again in the two years my husband and I have been together to get him to step down his ex. He is oblivious to the fact that she manipulates him, that she uses her kids to keep up a relationship with him (after the constant phone calls that they claim are all about the kids, he suddenly has all kinds of new info about her personal & work life - even if she's just yammering, why does he listen?).
I'v raised my two SS's for 14 years, 11 as SM. They are 19 & 17. I've been very consistant in how I deal with them. It has been said by my husband and me for years that after graduation that if they don't go into higher education, they have two months to find a place of their own and move out on their own.
I am wondering if I'm just cheap or something. Whenever we go out for dinner either with my husband and ss or if my parents take us out, ss wants to order these big expensive dinners. He is a thin 11 year old boy. Sometimes he eats a lot and sometimes he doesn't. I don't think that he should need to spend more than $10 on an average meal(not a special occasion). Am I way off base here? Somebody help!
I have been the SM of 4 boys for tens years now. They are all grown now. Over the last ten years, 3 of them lived with me and their dad.
Long story short, the youngest 2 have been a struggle to endure. Even now as twenty-something young men, I dread when they call their dad; it nearly always ends in arguments because we won't support them financially. They also, on nearly any occassion, blame me for their inability to get help from their dad. (The oldest son and I get along great, by the way. He's responsible, successful, rational, not on drugs, etc.)"
As a stepmother and a BM I must apologize to all of the stepmothers out there that are dealing with hateful BMs. I posted my blog on the advice of my stepchildren's BM. She said that this was a wonderful site and it might be a good idea to let people know that BMs are not all that bad that some stepmoms are horrible also. We happen to get along quite well. We talk daily and our husbands encourage our friendship. She knew what I was going through and thought that this site would help others to understand that there are two sides to every story.
I've been reading these blogs for some time now however have not worked up to asking for advice until now.... Here is my background: I am bio mom to two kids, one boy and one girl ages 9 and 5. I am stepmom to two kids, one boy and one girl ages 2 and 6. Both my husband and I share residential time of our children with their other parents in joint parenting plans. My husband and I have been together for 14 months and married for 3 months.
Now I am seeing red.....
We thought/hoped that since my attendance at SS's IEP meeting was cleared by his teacher that BM would find out I was allowed to come on that day.
Nope.
First she said the school called her after my DH had spoken with them to "see if [BM] was ok with it". From the way she spoke, my best guess is that she told them NO, she is NOT. She said to my H that she informed them that "[YOU] may go"...ie, only him, not me. More about how I'm not his parent...will she ever stop rubbing that in my face?
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