Ok well I am new here so I will give you my whole crazy story here. Its very long! Ok my fiance and I have one child together, she is 8 months old. He was married once before, he has a 15 year old daughter, and a 9 year old son. The ex wife is crazy. From the beginning the kids had been coming to stay with us every other weekend and for at least a week of their school breaks, and most of the summer. We live three hours away from them, so thats six hours for one trip. Six hours on Friday and six hours on Sunday to take them back....which is a lot of time and gets to be a lot of money.

I've been reading blogs about gaining custody. Is it that lengthy, messy, expensive, exshusting and to gain maybe not helping these kids. What is better?

I HAVE A 1YR OLD AND A 6YR OLD SD. HER MOTHER IS DRIVING US CRAZY IT IS PETTY CALL AFTER PETTY CALL. I DO NOT HAVE TO DEAL WITH HER DIRECTLY SO IF SOMTHING IS SAID I FEEL LIKE I CANNOT DEFEND MYSELF. I THINK IT IS HIS BUSINESS WHEN IT COMES TO THEIR DAUGHTER BUT IT IS GETTING TO THE POINT THAT ME AND MY 1YR ARE GETTING METALLY ATTACKED. I AM EITHER TRYING TO BE HER MOTHER (WHICH I KNOW I'M NOT BUT I DO HELP TAKE CARE OF HER WHEN SHE IS THERE)OR I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH.

BF was dropping SS off after visitation this weekend. BM has a habit of opening the door of the vehicle to help unload SS's stuff, but just standing there inside the door and talking to BF instead so that he can't pull away because he'd hit her with the vehicle or the door. So she's going on and on, and eventually she tells him that her laptop is broken again. She said it in a way that was evident to BF she wanted him to fix it. He said, "Considering the last time I worked on your laptop I was brought to court and accused of hacking it, I don't know what to tell you." Her jaw dropped!