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After all the bull that BM has done lately, BF gets an email from her this morning with the subject, "Please read - Personal". Inside she talks about how she's sorry things have gone the way they've gone. She said she realized they would never get the relationship back how it was in the beginning but hoped that they could develop a friendship again. She says she wishes he had just trusted her enough from the beginning to be truthful with her (he never did lie, she's the one who continues to do so yet claims that we are).
Now maybe it's me, but I don't see too many people on this site complaining about their ex husbands calling too much, stopping the children from seeing them, turning up at pick up and ranting, etc etc.
I just read Gwen's post about excessive BM communication - you know the BM's who call and call about nothing.
I got thinking, how many of us really impose on our new partners with ex husbands calling all the time, making unreasonable demands, invading the lives of our new husbands?
My ex is rarely if ever mentioned in this house.
His ex is raised regularly.
Well we got BM's financial info in the mail today from Fiancee's attorney. After going over and doing a little checking, fiancee just realized that she set up a PO Box for her mail 8 months before there was even any talk of separating and that she set up a bank account then to. Obviously she planned this long before he had any idea that she was unhappy in the marriage. I think it is sinking in now that she totally played him from the beginning of the relationship. The problem I am having is that now he is totally bummed out and saying he can't trust anyone.
Psycho BM just called my Fiancee telling him that she's moving back to town on May 5th and that she expects us to give her SS every weekend and started ranting and raving. My Fiancee told her that he didn't care and she could talk to our lawyer. That of course got her pissed and she started spouting off threats etc...
BM said that she had dropped her charges against BF and is begging us to do the same, claiming it's what's "best for SS" blah blah blah. Well, yesterday BF had his lawyer call and check on things. Imagine our suprise to find out that she hadn't actually dropped her charges. This is just classic BM. Just trying to manipulate us a lie to us and expect us to just believe her. Did she think we were just going to blindly believe her and not even check?
ARRGH!!! I just wanna scream. My SS's are sooooooo damn immature and irresponsible. They are 8 and 9. I don't know about you but when I was that age, I had a chore list a mile long. Theirs is simple. SS9 gets dishes, feeding the cats and clearing off the kitchen table. SS8 straightens up the living room, feeds the dog and cleans the bathroom. They are each responsible for their own room. Notice I said "straighten up"? Yea, no deep cleaning, I do that part.
Can anyone help me to get in touch with Dawn??
I posted recently about the actual problem. So the phone rings and SS9, who is also ODD and very unforgiving toward his BM, answers the phone. I was giving BS a bath and couldn't get to the phone. Anyhway, I hear SS9 yelling "Good, I hate you too and I already have a better mommy than you" and then I hear the phone hit the wall. So I get baby out of the tub to find out what the problem is. Turns out, BM called to discuss the deal she wants to make with me and since SS9 answered the phone, she took it upon herself to tell him that she wanted to give him up.
Just got letter from bm regarding all the activities she has enrolled ss in for the summer. THey are EVERY night! This just seems like A LOT to me. And I seriously can't be a spectatior every night of the week for the next 3 months straight. I'm 8 months pregnant for one. And secondly it feels like she is setting us up to fail. Becasue she has no life outside of 'timmy', no other children or a spouse. BUt We do have other commitments and I don't want to feel guilty about not being able to put my whole life and other childrens lives on hold.
We have been together for six years, married not yet six months. He is still in weekly contact with his ex, sometimes up to an hour conversation. All this goes on during his work hours, not in our home. Of course they only talk about their children. They are 29 and 24. Yes, they are very much still children. Both still very needy. When I recently asked my husband about an hour phone call with the ex, he told me "if I felt I needed to end the call before that time I would have." I feel that they just can't break the connection.
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