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Submitted by Realist on Tue, 05/08/2007 - 12:36am

Is this scenario appropriate?

MIL in hospital with serious but currently stable condition.

BM, finds this out and turns up at the hospital unannounced to visit ex-MIL, uninvited and without prior notice to DH.

BM is carrying a set of keys in her hand and asks ex-father-in-law if he wants to stay at her place (she is not far from the hospital).

The difference between an ex husband and ex wife

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Submitted by Realist on Sat, 04/21/2007 - 5:35pm

Now maybe it's me, but I don't see too many people on this site complaining about their ex husbands calling too much, stopping the children from seeing them, turning up at pick up and ranting, etc etc.

I just read Gwen's post about excessive BM communication - you know the BM's who call and call about nothing.

I got thinking, how many of us really impose on our new partners with ex husbands calling all the time, making unreasonable demands, invading the lives of our new husbands?

My ex is rarely if ever mentioned in this house.

His ex is raised regularly.

What happens when you add a baby to the blender?

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Submitted by Realist on Wed, 04/18/2007 - 5:48am

No,I don't mean literally!

OK - I have read a few posts mentioning that DH had various expectations when a new baby arrived in terms of its effect on and relationship with his children from a previous marriage.

I'd love to hear from others about their experiences - whether DH feels more guilty because he's not spending the same time, energy, money, giving the same experiences to his other child who lives with his ex. Does it cause tension? Does the DH resent your bio child from your previous marriage who lives with you because it's getting to see the new baby more?

Is this unreasonable?

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Submitted by Realist on Mon, 04/02/2007 - 8:59am

Ok, things have been going ok lately, largely because I've been just letting things go and bitting my lip. My DH has been in HK for a week and we've been missing each other a lot.

In the spirit of step-motherhood, i decided that I would pull my weight and pick up SD on the weekend. She didn't want to come on the scheduled time, so I rearranged my schedule to take her Saturday night and Sunday instead. Of course, we went to the beach, park, lunch, etc, etc.

This is the last resort

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Submitted by Realist on Thu, 03/01/2007 - 12:06am

As I sit here to write this my stomach is in knots. I feel so unbelievably out of my depth, so sick to my stomach.

DH and I are nearing what I think is the end of the road. We have discussed separating - and as a last resort (I know we should have gone earlier) we are going to counselling. Of course DH thinks I am the one with issues about his ex. Those of you who know my story know it's untenable - as Anne and BIOMOM have both correctly stated.

Just can't bring myself to like SD

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Submitted by Realist on Sat, 02/17/2007 - 3:21am

OK - those of you who have been following my situation know that DH and I have been having a few issues about his SD. It got to the point where i was leaving the house on Friday nights when she came to visit. I have since returned and he is making a really good effort with my BD (which has been a gripe of mine in the past).