I posted recently about the actual problem. So the phone rings and SS9, who is also ODD and very unforgiving toward his BM, answers the phone. I was giving BS a bath and couldn't get to the phone. Anyhway, I hear SS9 yelling "Good, I hate you too and I already have a better mommy than you" and then I hear the phone hit the wall. So I get baby out of the tub to find out what the problem is. Turns out, BM called to discuss the deal she wants to make with me and since SS9 answered the phone, she took it upon herself to tell him that she wanted to give him up. Apparently he asked why and she said because she hated him. WTF?!? So I cuddled him and told him it's alright, we'll work it out and that I love him enough for both of us but don't throw my phone anymore. So I call BM. I ask her why she said anything to SS when we weren't sure if we were going to take the deal. And why say anything like that to child in the first place? She told me to mind my ouwn business and hung up. Mind my own business? Excuse me, but who is the one picking up the pieces of a broken hearted little boy? No matter what he says, that is his mom and I think it's not that he hates her but that he doesn't understand why she hates him and that hurts and makes him angry. SS8 was like "Good, I'll never have to see her again" and went about his business. God what a royal bitch.