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Hi All! I am new here. New to blogging that is, I have been lurking for awhile. I have gotten to the point where all the thoughts in my head are so jumbled up I am completely overwhelmed. I need to vent & would also be interested to hear what others dealing with similar issues think of the situation I am in. I am sick of only hearing the same thing from my DH "I can't control her" & "I do it for my kids", both in regards to all the crap BM pulls!
Hello All, it's been a while since I have been on here and I really needed to vent today. Last time I posted I told you all that we got SD3 Mon-Fri and it was going okay. Well...FH got a promotion at work which os great BUT it also means longer hours as well as staying later than his schedule say ETC. This also mean more responsibility on me. He takes her to school beofre he goes to work and then I pick her up after work aroung=d 3:45ish and have her until he gts home which can be anywhere from 8:30- ???? Now, I take care of her, feed her, bathe her and get her ready for bed.
DH family cant understand why we dont come for holidays. Maybe its because BM always has to make her surprise visit when she drops off skids. Now, I dont think that some of the other step parents there would like it it the bio parent showed up by surprise. BM is always looking for handouts from DH family who cater to her every whim..its sickening!
My childhood was great. The biggest gift I ever recieved from my family was a scooter that costs $400.00. It was awesome, and I loved it and rode it for many years!
My mom didn't get me braces, she couldn't afford it. I did need them, later on in my adult life I got everything taken care of. She didn't buy me a car, I did that. She didn't pay for my wedding, I did that. She couldn't.............and I knew it. I didn't want her to do anything that would put her out-so to speak.
Would you want them to come to their funeral, send a card, or just call you? What would your DH do if they didn't do anything? What would you do if they didn't do anything?
I know my skids would come to their funerals, but they like my family and my family likes them. My stepmother isn't the greatest, but I sent her a card when her parents died and called her. I just think it's the right thing to do.
Join!!!!!! Perhaps you have some great advice or insight to offer!!
What do you do with a mouthy 14 year old SS who Skips school to go have unprotected sex with his 14 year old girlfriend!!!????? I know what I feel like doing but what is the right thing to do. He currently lives with Bm and has for the last 10 months for the first time since he was 3 and his behavior has consistantly gone down hill. He is so disrespectful and argumentitive and quite hateful, Bm doesn't help she gives into him because she doesn't want to fight with him and DH does the samething sometimes.. I have never met a kid that liked to fight soo much.
I know this has probably been asked before, but I just thought I'd see how everyone else feels about this.
For my situation, I blame DH and BM because they are the adults and skids were very young. Kids learn behavior from their parents. They need rules & boundaries. At the time, there were no rules and boundaries in place for them. The skids were 7 and 9 when the situation was at its worst. However, I know some of you have adult skids and teenage skids and I do think there's a point where one should know better. I just don't know where that point is.
and guess who will be footing the bill in our house...you guessed it Moi! DH and BM will have to pay 50% each of the bill. Right now DH is making squat financially at his job, and already has accumulated thousands of dollars of lawyer bills fighting BM over this placement schedule. I had to return back to work about two months ago, and don't really relish in the idea of having my entire paycheck now going to pay for the skids braces.
I know that a lot of you here have skids who are the "only children." Heck, I was an only child until my mom married my stepdad. I'm older than my stepsibs, but it was still a huge adjustment for me.
I think that this situation becomes a lot more complex in a step/blended family (as do a lot of other things!). For instance, Dad and Mom divorce and only have 1 child (SS or SD). Then Dad remarries someone who does have children or someone who doesn't have kids but wants them in the future. Mom might remarry, but decides she doesn't want any more kids for whatever reason.
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