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Me and DH went home for Christmas and DH noticed that SS7 smelled of urine so he checked his pants and sure enough he had peed in his pants. DH told SS that he needed to stop being lazy and go to the bathroom. DH told me this and I told him that maybe there was something else to it and that he should ask SS about it instead of just assuming that he was still lazy. So the next day DH asked SS about it and SS said that he just didn't make it to the toilet in time.
So in my last post I said that DH finally told SD that she does have to listen to me if she's going to come to our house. She said she would never come back if she had to listen to me. She took all her things to BM's.
Today's conversation...
Me: So DH do you want to go to the usual place on Saturday that we go when the older kids aren't with us or do you want to do something else. (We only will have BD2 all weekend).
DH: Ummm, I don't know yet, maybe. I have to wait and see if SD wants to come this w/e.
9 year old also does not want to do homework or pick up after herself. She has lived with her dad for last 3 years. bm.comes and goes. any suggestions
that there is nothing that can surprise us any longer..right?
Okay, so BM has contacted FMIL and stated that FDH is sneaking out of my bed at night and going to her (parent's) house (where she lives) to sleep with her stating "f*** (his mother, father, step-mother, me (of course, and i believe...his sister)" and that he only wants to be with her...
Also that I have sent her nasty text messages and posted weird things on my Facebook.
I watched an episode of house today after seeing my psychiatrist and blabing about DH's ex. A lot was put in perspective. Here is the quote:
House: "People don't get what they deserve. They just get what they get, and there's nothing any of us can do about it."
I swear I should just hold a sign that says, "Dealing With It."
FDH and I sat down to have a private talk about FSD17 (the Diva) today. It was at his suggestion. I foolishly thought he'd hear me out, like he has before. He did not.
Instead I got the following responses from FDH to the issues I brought up with him:
My son has aspbergers and he has been lazy in some of his classes lately. My son said that they want to put him in a special program but wants me to send them proof that he has this. So anyway I tell my son that he is not going in a program that will reduce his load or give him special treatment just b/c of this. I told him that life will not give him special treatment and he needs to figure out a way to cope and to stop being LAZY! Just b/c he has this does not mean he gets a free pass but he needs to work harder and find ways that work for him.
Thought this was an interesting article, as I'm building my parenting ideas... since getting 2 stepkids and having a daughter and another baby on the way.
http://www.cnn.com/2011/LIVING/01/13/chinese.mom.superior/index.html?hpt=C2
All racial/ethnic stuff aside, looking at the IDEALS only, which are you, your spouse and the ex-spouse?
A. a "Chinese mom"
B. a "Western mom"
C. somewhere in-between?
For some reason, me and dh got onto the subject of if we had kids and if we got divorced. I think it was after we started talking about bm and sd. dh doesnt like how bm parents sd, as she is more permissive and he thinks that sd would be better off with him, which of course i agree, I think he is an excellent parent. Sometimes I feel he is too harsh on her, but I dont say anything, unless I feel it really is unjust; I just did that one time and he agreed with me.
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