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DH took our kid into his Ex-In Laws House at their Party
I felt in my gut that something like this would happen, one day, some day. I just hoped it wouldn't.
I asked DH to take our kids with him when he went to drop SKids back on Sun, so that I can finish up some stuff at home. He was dropping them back at BM's parents because they were celebrating some birthdays there. I usually always go with him.
He left DD at his own parents place and took DS with him because he was sleeping in the car.
BM claimed SD on her taxes, divorce papers say DH is supposed to.
So our tax return was rejected because BM claimed SD. According to the divorce decree, DH claims SD and BM claims SS each year.
BM wants joint 16th Birthday celebration for SD
I have not been here in a long time, because things have been going very well.
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DH played by SD16
SD16 called DH on a Thur afternoon to get her because she had a huge fight with her mother and wanted to come to our house. I got her because DH could not leave work.
She said she was never going back. She said all sorts of things about her mom, and what her mom says about DH and I and our family.
Her mother said if she wanted to live with us, she cannot have anything from her mom's house that her mom or her mom's family paid for. She still said she wanted to stay.
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BM wants part of her September money early
BM wants part of her September money early (late Aug).
No BM, we are not your freaking Financial Management Company.
I don't see why DH would even entertain the thought. He forwarded her request to me and I had to check our Finances and let him know. Well I said "No". That money can be used to better manage our OWN cash flow.
Selfish - check
Unkind - check
Rational - check
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DH said I need to be friends with BM
:jawdrop:
Really, DH?
We just drop the kids back, and were talking about kids going to college, and I said that college is a lot of reading and work, and he drew the conclusion that SD probably isn't going to college. I offered to help SD with her reading and he said it was a good idea. But then, the conversation went to how torn the skids are and how hard it is for them, because their mother feels threatened by me. That DH and the skids are the ones who get hurt because they are in the middle, and that what will help the skids MOST is if I was friends with BM.
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Great Quote
Saw this and wanted to share: https://fbcdn-sphotos-a-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-prn2/968858_6740960059...
"Never sacrifice your class to get even with someone who has none. Let them have the gutter. You take the high road." ~ Unknown
Useful for me to keep in mind when BM is spewing obscenities because I dare to be involved. 
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It doesn't take much to make a Stepmom feel left out with all the Social Media stuff
I thought things had been going great, then this mini-little-thing that made me so ANGRY.
DH's SIL wanted to take the kids to a show on a weekend we didn't have them. DH told her to ask BM, which she did and she got the kids for the weekend. DH was driving past where the show was on Sun (to get to somewhere else) and decided to meet up with them and have a great time.
The ONLY problem, he didn't tell me.
He didn't tell me before, when I asked him if he was going to meet them up and I asked him point blank not to lie to me and not to lie by omission.
SKids went back to BM yesterday, and guess who's playing buddy-buddy with DH
It really baffles me how these women just don't get it.
One civil interaction with DH regarding dropping off the kids, is all it takes for BM to start playing buddy-buddy with DH.
Doesn't she get that the SOLE reason he's even having a conversation with her is because of the kids?
BM keeps pushing a conversation with DH about people they know in common or things happening in the industry because she now works in the same industry as DH, and even works 5 minutes away from him.
DH had a talk with SKIDS, I did not even ask him to do so.
And the big takeaway that I get from listening in from afar is this:
After marrying me, things CHANGED. DH changed. The relationship between DH and their mom CHANGED. And all this CHANGE is the saddest part for them. Even 5 years down the line.
Now DH knows that he's changed for the better. He says it all the time, that without me, his life would still be in a rut, and now he values so many things that he didn't give a shit about before. So DH is happy with his change, I'm happy, our kids are happy kids.