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So I started reading Stepmonster. I really like it.
The day after I bought it and started reading it, BF and I decide I should move out.
Now, I have waited over a week after this decision to blog about it. I wanted to be sure so no one got yanked around (like I do all the time)
I am so relieved to not be responsible any more. He as actually now started to parent his kids!
:jawdrop:
I almost find it sickening. It takes me moving out for him to finally get on his kids about talking to him before making plans.
When we drop off SS3 on Sundays at BM's apartment I always wait in the car. Yesterday, while waiting, a car pulled up next to us. I glanced at it for a second then continued on with changing the radio station and texting my dad. I looked up when the people were opening the door to the actual building, and realized it was SD5 with her bio dad. It dawned on me that it was them that pulled up next to me.
I don't hate SD, I don't even dislike SD as a person, I just don't love SD or have any special sort of bond with her like I do my own children or even my other immediate or extended family (parents, siblings, nieces, nephews, close cousins, etc.), so that I don't miss SD when she's not around, nor do I have an interest in spending time with her when she is around, and instead I just feel uncomfortable and resentful for feeling forced to have her around when I wouldn't otherwise want her around.
I feel guilty for the way that I feel about my ss's. The thing is I wouldn't mind helping my dh with them but I'm not helping I'm taking care of them 100% of the time when they visit. They are over every other weekend and they do not spend anytime w/ thier bf, they spend it w/ me because my dh works weekends. I want him to take them on his days off but he shows no interest in doing that.I almost feel like he's pushing them off on me on my weekends when I would like to have some time to myself and relax. Recently he told me that he never wanted children so now I really think that.
Ss11 refused to go to bed last night and then refused to get up this morning and go to school. Bm called dh and told him what happened b/c she was mad. I had been telling dh that they need to go to bed at a decent time and it was the cause of many fights. However now that I'm working nights I'm not home at night b/c I like to go to bed at 10 and they would still be up and being VERY loud as they have no consideration for anyone hence the many fights. So anyway I know that dh was making them go to bed just before I get home which is around 3am.
We are in a custody battle with the mother of my husband's children. My husband and she currenlty share 50/50 custody, but the logistics of the situation are not working out.
In addition, she has felt like a very intrusive force in our marriage. Whatever she say's "goes" because she holds the trump card--his kids.
Hi everyone, I am new to this site but am SOOOOOO glad i found it. I was driving to work this morning wondering why I am such a demon for not liking or wanting my husbands kids around. Here's the thing, we have been together for 3 years and I have a bio son 13y/o. He has "THE GIRLS" as he terms them, who are 6 and 10. From the start he tried to shield me from them because he was in another relationship after his divorce where that partner did not take to his kids. He is a great guy and honestly his kids are not bad kids. at all. which is one the of the problems.
I'm looking for a good book about how to help the kids cope when the divorced parents cannot always agree and there is still conflict, even though significant time has passed.
Honestly, I know that the parents are supposed to suck it up for the sake of the kids, but I think that, in reality, when the 2 parents' values and parenting are so profoundly different, conflict is inevitable.
And then we talked about what she was thinking when she came home all pissed off.
She opened it up saying that it really hurt her that I took away our time spent exercising together since that constitutes "alone time" to her. We don't interact when kicking our own asses in spin class, so I don't see the connection part, but then again, I'm a guy and while I think it's cool that we do that together, I don't attach emotion to it. I'm not seeking understanding on that one, but I can accept it.
So yesterday was my first night moved out and I never thought in a million years I would be "sad." I miss my SO so much but not his kids. He is under the impression if I come back "him and I" can help straighten out his kids. I think I have tried and I don't feel like it is my responsibility. I just can't put myself nor my BKs back in an environment where there is so much drama between everyone and his kids. Am I being unreasonable?
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