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Well we had a good long talk with the skids. Guess I am pretty scary to them. I don't put up with any type of stuff from kids (I am the adult, my rules override them) but come to find out their mother is some sort of failed psychologist. Funny that. My personal opinion is she is turning them into incapable people who won't be able to handle the really tough stuff that may hit them as they grow. Oh well, not my children so no skin off me. However we did tell them our house, our rules and mother has no say. Period. I think they got the message.
For those of you who do not get along with your SD/SS, do you expect them to acknowledge you or even just send you a text or a phone call on your Anniversary, Birthday and Mother's Day?
SS called yesterday. His exams are over and he is off for Summer until September. Of course, he has his music job but he has a lot more free time. My husband picked up the phone and SS imediately said he wants to speak to me. My husband was so hurt. But he gave me the phone. I finally got to tell him how beautiful the flowers he sent me were. He said he was glad I liked them. He put Sarah on the phone and let her babble a bit. I could have listened all day. I did not mention Sunday's event at ALL. It was such a horrible thing for SS's mother to do.
Last night we got a call from OSS20 who is in a 3/4 house for alcohol and drug rehab.
DH was outside so I took the phone out to him and came back 15 mins later to see if he wanted me to take the phone inside.
He was finishing his call to OSS and hadned the phone to me. OSS wanted to chat! I nearly fell up the stairs! He and I used to be quite friendly. He would come home from Middle School and we would make sarcastic remarks about the advertising. FUN!
I saw a statement from a fellow SM on the Stepmom magazine site:
"He doesn't have to choose between his kids and me, but he does need to make a conscious effort to include me and to build "our family" instead of trying to fit me in to his old family."
BM calls DH stating SS21 is doing really well, not using and bi-polar issues under control (funny how that happens when not shooting heroin). Wants to move back into state (has been living out of state in rehab and a sober living facility). But what kills me is it the same all over again. SS21 - "I am going to go back to school, I need a car and an apartment". No mention of how he will pay for this because he and his BM expect us too. He cant live with us we are not home during the week.
Last week I had a feud (through text message) with my dh ex-wife, about half naked pics and texts that she send my dh...I also told her husband....so she got really mad that I busted her game wide open because up to that point I have never said anything to her, I have always talked to my dh....But since then she pulls her "I dont want my kids around HER" card!
I’m trying to let go of the things that irritate me about my SSs. One of those things is the summer baseball schedule, as they have weekend practices and games, we won’t be able to go to our summer home as often as we’d like.
Last year we were only able to go a couple of times because of the boy’s baseball commitment. I wasted a lot of time feeling angry and resentful because we chose to stay home on most weekends and let the boys play baseball instead of going to our summer home.
We have recently been presented an offer we're finding difficult to refuse.
My FDH and BM bought a 3-bedroom 2 bath twin home/twindo/duplex (whatever you want to call it) and that is where FDH and I live now. BM's name is still on the house loan (she won't sign a quit claim bc it's helping her credit...that's a whole other topic). We've been updating things in the house with the intent to sell it in the next year or two.
Coming up on the final court date- about a month away. Mixed emotions. He's still a stranger to me, someone I thought I knew but really never did. I'm not sure anyone truly knows him-even himself.
I worked last week. Hard. I taught 250 8th graders at an inner city school all week. Shakespeare. Even the remedial readers. That was actually a pleasant surprise.
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