It was a wonderful summer, mainly because SS22 is out of our house.
SS22 moved out after graduation, DH and I were going to charge him rent and also require him to help around the house. He decided to move back to BM’s house. He just got an apartment near Uber-Expensive-University Campus he graduated from. The only reason he got his own place is because SF put his foot down and started charging SS22 rent.
This is what happens when DH (and I) step out of the situation:
SS22 decided to take the job. He showed DH and I the benefits package and it is nice. He also gets 3 weeks of vacation. The 3rd week is the week between Christmas and New Year's - The business is closed for that week.
SS22 is not excited about it at all - I don't get him.
SS22 applied for and was offered a position at the company he is interning at, but at 60K (annual) he feels the offer is too low and is considering not accepting.
I asked him why he felt it was too low and he said his friends received offers between 70K-75K. I asked, friends with higher GPAs? I got no answer.
I asked him if the other companies he interviewed had extended offers. SS22 - no other company has. This is the only offer.
He has no job offers. Nothing lined up after graduation.
He is applying for engineering jobs at big corporations requiring 3+ years of experience.
Because he thinks he should be paid 100K right out of the gate.
BM told DH over the weekend she has MS. I feel bad for SSons.
I printed a couple of brochures about having a parent with MS and what MS is for the Skids, from the National MS Society.
SS17 took the information, he was grateful, learning about it took some of his anxiety away.
DH and I asked both SSons if they wanted to talk about it. SS17 said maybe later. SS21 didn't want to talk either he said he had looked MS up online and knew about it and that BM saud she was fine, so she is fine.
In the days following the last post I have kept my same morning routine.
SS21 spent the last 2 weeks at BMs house, his school is on the trimester system and he was on break.
He came back Sunday night.
SS21 never mention the incident to DH so DH didn't talk to him about it. Not surprised at all.
I have the same morning routine. SS21 acts like nothing happened.
Yesterday morning I was cleaning as usual and SS21 got up before 6:30 a.m. to take a shower. Even said good morning to me on the way to the shower.
I was vacuuming this morning (6:30 a.m..) and SS21 barrels out of his room and asks me why I vacuum in the morning. I told him that since no one helps with the housework and I'm the only one who does it that I get to decide when I want to do it. I don't like doing it at night when I get home for work so I do it before work.
SS21 yells at me that his trying to sleep because he's got an exam today. Then SS21 then tells me that he won't be quiet at night so I can sleep.
When SS17 got to our house last week Friday DH had him take the drug test. SS17 didn't test positive for anything, which is awesome.
We talked with him about how dangerous vaping is especially because he has asthma. He also lost his bedroom door for lieing to us. DH took it off the hinges and set it in his room next to the doorway which I think is funny. DH and I will let him have it back after SS17 passes another drug test a couple of weeks from now. SS17 doesn't know about the upcoming drug test.
This month has been awful.
DH was fired from his job of 15 years the Thursday after Thanksgiving. He was interviewing the last two weeks and started a new job this week. It's awesome how well he bounced back. I don't think I could have done it. This has really shaken me up, my stress level has been through the roof but I've been keeping it in, just want to support DH right now.