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College Money and a Lie

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BM got the skids savings accounts and college funds in the divorce. Over the years BM has told DH that she was contributing to it.

When I met DH he would give the skids birthday and Christmas money (from his family) to BM to put in the college funds. After I found out that BM didn't have to share the balance of the college funds with DH, I made him stop contributing to the accounts.

Sleep Deprivation and Being the Bad Guy

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I’m so sick of the skids coming to our house sleep deprived.

Last night SS13 was a total red-eyed-asshole. I asked him what time he went to bed the night before. SS13 said 9 p.m. Then I asked him what time he went to sleep. All I got from SS13 was *crickets* *deer-in-headlight* and then a snarky “I don’t know!!!”

I’m sure SS13 was up most of the night effing around on his tablet. And far be it from BM to interrupt that. I mean it’s only mid-terms week. Not like grades matter.

Entitled SS17

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BM ordered SS17 an expensive coat for Christmas. It arrived at BM’s House yesterday. So when SS17 got home from school he opened the box and wore the coat over to our house. He and SS13 didn’t see BM before they left her house.

BM calls DH and before she asks to talk to SS17 she tells DH what SS17 did. SS17 gets off the phone with her and has a smirk on his face.

Dress Clothes Multiple Choice

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So you are the BM. What do you do when your 12 year son has a concert and needs to wear a white dress shirt and black pants:

A) Go to the store and buy him dress clothes.
Dirol Ask son if he has a white shirt and black pants and trust him (the 12 year old) when he says yes.
C) Get son's dress clothes out, have him get ready for the concert.
D) Call your ex an hour before the concert and ask him to bring son a white dress shirt.

File this under Awkward

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So BM's SO is a child-of-divorce. His SM and BM were BFFs who shopped and hung out together.

BM's SO feels that it's important that we (as in BM, her SO, DH and me) have good relationships to make it easier on the Skids. BM's SO has invited us over to their house for dinner.

Don't know how I feel about this. I just think the evening will be uncomfortable. BM usually ignores me; I'm polite to her - Hello & Good-Bye is about the extent of it.

DH’s Aha Moment

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So BM has made a habit of calling the skids, at our house on DH’s time, and yelling at them for things that have happened on her time at her house.

Last night BM texted DH and told him to tell SS12 to call her.

SS12 calls BM.

SS12 was on the phone with BM for a long time.

SS12 comes into the kitchen, in tears, and gives DH his phone back.

DH asks SS12 what’s wrong and SS12 starts bawling. DH hugs him and comforts him. When SS12 calms down enough to speak he tells DH that BM yelled at him for not cleaning his room (at her house).

Update: Senior Pictures

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Please see previous blog for background: http://www.steptalk.org/node/197671

I ended up going with DH, the poster that said it was a “team DH thing” was right.

I had 3 predictions:

1. BM & SS17 would be late.
2. SS17 would have messy uncombed hair.
3. SS17 would not be wearing an undershirt under his white dress shirt.

I was a right about all 3 predictions.

Senior Pictures

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SS17 is having his senior pictures taken in the next couple of weeks.

Background: BM set it up, last minute of course, at a local park. The photographer is an exBF of BM's. At BM's request, DH and I took SS17 and purchased a suit, dress shoes etc. for him (BM paid half).

DH wants to be there when the pictures are taken, which is fine with me. DH also wants me to be there, which is not fine with me. I don't see how my being there will make a difference one way or the other. It's not like BM cares what I think anyway.

He's No Karate Kid

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So DH just found out that SS12 wasn't accepted into the black-belt class. DH and BM are just shocked SS12 didn't make it. This is the second time SS12 has failed the black belt class try-outs.

SS12 made a big deal about all of us attending his try-out - DH, BM, BM's SO and me were all there. This is a kid who never practices his karate at home and missed at least one class a week (his class is 2 nights a week).

Update to: BM & Skids Moving in with BM's SO

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Off to a bumpy start. Please see previous blog for background - http://www.steptalk.org/node/196446

BM texted DH tonight to call the boys and yell at them for not packing. :?

DH called SS17 and SS17 promptly told him that BM gave her SO SS17's xBox and the WiFi box until packing is completed.

DH told SS17 that he's not getting in the middle of this but that everyone is stressed and the shortest distance between 2 points is a straight line and that if SS17 wants his stuff back he needs to do what BM says.

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