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Proud of SS15!

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Submitted by BettyRay on Fri, 11/17/2017 - 1:23pm

SS15 got all Bs this term! This is a first for him, I'm so proud of him. He struggles in school and has to study twice as much to get passing grades.

DH also thinks (and I agree) that changing the parenting plan has helped. We are now doing 7 on/7 off, Friday night to the following Friday morning. I think this schedule has really helped SS15, he gets the consistency he needs to do better academically. We had a jacked up schedule before EOW (Friday PM - Tuesday AM) then every Wednesday night to Thursday morning.

~BettyRay

Backing Out At The 11th Hour

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Submitted by BettyRay on Thu, 11/09/2017 - 3:01pm

So tomorrow DH is having a medical procedure done and won't be able to drive after. I have a huge meeting tomorrow, which I had on the calendar for months. DH made the appointment without checking the calendar. DH asked SS20 if he would pick him up from the hospital 2 months ago when the appointment was made. SS20 agreed. DH has been reminding SS20 every week since he agreed.

OT - Anyone Else Have Problems Sleeping?

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Submitted by BettyRay on Tue, 11/07/2017 - 9:59am

I bounce between falling asleep but not staying asleep or just not being able to fall asleep in the first place.

Last night was a doozie I couldn't sleep, so I read for a while.

Finally fell asleep then SS20 came home, dogs were barking, ugh, up again.

Just get back to sleep and SS20 is banging around the kitchen making himself something to eat, it was after midnight.

Fall back asleep again and DH gets up to go to the bathroom.

DH and Excuses

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Submitted by BettyRay on Mon, 11/06/2017 - 2:55pm

My DH is always making excuses for SS20 and SS15. This has been going on for years. I call him on it but it doesn't stop DH.

I'm tired of it. This is why the boys a stunted and immature.

~BettyRay

Update - SS20 On My Last Nerve

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Submitted by BettyRay on Mon, 10/30/2017 - 2:16pm

Thank you all for your thoughtful responses. Your feedback helped me gather my thoughts and better present how I felt to DH.

And - HowLongIsForever - The first thing DH and I both told SS20 when he got the almost failing grade in the core class was: "why don't you retake that, see if they offer it in summer" We urged him to retake it for a higher grade. I told him it was important to show he understood the core concepts and that even if it put him behind a year it would be worth it in the long run. SS20 thought we were overreacting. He was very cavalier about it.

SS20 - Update

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Submitted by BettyRay on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 3:23pm

SS20 is avoiding us. In the morning SS20 waits to get up till DH leaves for work and I'm in the bathroom. Then SS20 stays in the shower till I leave for work. SS20's also staying away from the house till after we go to bed. It's comical.

DH has stopped:
- making SS20's lunch.
- buying SS20's favorite foods for his lunches.
- texting SS20 to find out if he will be home for dinner.
- making up a plate for SS20 to heat up hen he gets home.
- texting SS20 asking him when he will be coming home.

SS20

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Submitted by BettyRay on Thu, 09/07/2017 - 4:42pm

SS20 has been living with us and going to Uber-Expensive University since last fall. He is extremely selfish and entitled. Under normal circumstances I can deal with him. But a bunch of things have happened over the course of this year that make me want to scream every time I'm in the same room with SS20.

Regression

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Submitted by BettyRay on Wed, 08/23/2017 - 9:56am

So DH has regressed back to guilty daddy. I have no idea why.

SS15 is with us this week and I left a list of simple chores for him to do during the day; DH and I talked about it ahead of time and he was on board.

Well I found out yesterday DH has been doing them for SS15 when he gets home from work (he gets home before I do).:? But I didn't bother to say anything about it, why argue? At least the chores are getting done.

Then last night he was under-minding me in front of SS15. I called DH on it and then left the room. It was over something stupid too.

Merry Christmas!

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Submitted by BettyRay on Fri, 12/23/2016 - 9:46am

I haven't been on here in months. I got a promotion in May, same company, different department, and I'm super busy, super stressed but much happier.

I wanted to wish all of you a very Merry Christmas!

DH - Was diagnosed with depression a year and half ago. His on anti-depression meds. and is a changed man. Our marriage is so much better and stronger now. He has stepped up and is very supportive of me and now really backs me up in front of the SSons.

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