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This year has positively been the year from HELL for me! I understand that God only puts on you what he thinks you can handle and it all makes you stronger in the end, but I have had enough! I can't take any more!
December 31st, I lost my mother to a pulmonary embolism and lymphoma. January, the hubby's ex-wife took us to court for more child support on his 18 year old daughter and won. We paid a $1500.00 settlement and thought it was over. Then in May or June she filed to DHS that he was a dead beat dad and ended up getting another $6500.00 settlement.
Does anyone have any ideas, how I can educate or get my BF educated about Stepfamilies and their unique issues in a way that won’t offend him? He doesn't know what he doesn't know. I was the same way, but I'm the type of person to go searching for answers. Any help would be greatly appreciated!
I'm not venting b/c I knew this would happen. Ss is 12, highly ill mannered, doesn't appreciate anything, and treats everyone like shit, and walks around like we just have to accept it.
Last March bm bought ss a razr when they were $300, only for him to lose it while grandma washed it in her laundry. Even then, bm stated this was the only one she was buying him, and if he ruined it or lost it, he was out a cell phone. That lasted a whopping 2 months. So tonight, ss called dh to let him know he got another razr.
On sunday BM called saying that SD had been a total nightmare at her house. BM claims that SD was throwing fits constantly. According to BM, SD threw a plate and broke it, pulled BM's hair and hit her, and was screaming and crying for 45 mins throwing toys and other things. Now this is VERY hard for me to believe as I have NEVER seen this type of behavior from my SD and I am the one who watches her all the time.
Today I'm feeling so much better. The last two days I thought I stepped right into the twilight zone. While leaving work I always call my husband to let him know I'm on my way home (he cooks dinner). He was also on his way home and he told me not to worry about picking up the boys, he would do it. He said just go home have some time to yourself. I was shocked, he hasn't acted like that for over a year now.
My daughter is a step-daughter (common-law) and as her Bio-mom and his X..it gives me a slightly different perspective than when I'm on the recieving end as a step-mom. My daughter did an "all about me" assignment which I looked over this morning. She listed me,dad, sDAd, brother, 2 Ssisters and her dog.......she did not include Dad's live-in GF (1 1/2 yrs now) common-law spouse. Everyone else was there and she was quite obviously excluded!! (Welcome to my world as a SM)
After 7 yrs of being w/my husband and stepson in my life...tonight was the night that I realize that I cannot or will not bond w/stepson. Not that I haven't tried at all, I've tried many times to talk to him, but I literally have to force myself to do so. I don't know what it is, is it because I resent him being in my life? I see his mother when I see his face and I just get sick to my stomach. Sometimes he acts like his mother, talks down to my daughter and that makes it worse. I never told my husband how I feel because it will just break his heart. I don't plan on telling him.
My Husband and I have been together for six years. He has a son that he shares custody of with his ex. I have no children of my own and we have no children together, that is why my ss means the world to me.
I really don't know how to begin this entry. My ss and I had a huge arguement last night while his dad was at work. He has a bad habit of never being able to do what I ask him to do, at least not the right way. It's almost as if he screws things up just to push my buttons. So I called him out on this and he's says he doesn't know why he doesn't like to do what I tell him. Now, I do the biggest amount of telling him what to do and what is expected of him because his dad works at night and is only here with the kids on the weekends.
The information below is a repost of what brought me to this site in the first place…now the time is coming around again for my daughter a’s birthday and I’m feeling all the same feelings that I did when I came looking for help/advice…I never got a reply to the post below so I’m hoping that someone can give me their honest perspective on the issue…also, I’m debating how I want to handle the whole birthday issue being that daughter a’s birthday is coming up in a month....(I’m a planner :O} ) and I want to start to finalize some plans…THANKS IN ADVANCE!!!!
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