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A Question for the Moms

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I have a question for the Moms. My BF’s daughter is 13 and will be a Freshman in high school next year. My BF still insists on tucking his daughter into bed and giving her a kiss. I know every parent is different, but my parents stop doing this when I was 11. I still said good night and gave each a hug and kiss before putting myself in bed.

The reason for my concern is that I do not feel she is maturing at a normal rate for a girl her age. She still says stuff like “Duckey and Horsey.” Is this normal?

I was just curious, has anyone seen...

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I was just curious, has anyone seen the movie Stepmom with Ed Harris, Julia Roberts and Susan Sarandon

Synopsis: Divorce is tough on everyone, even the new girlfriend. Isabel (Roberts) is dating Luke (Harris) and his ex (Sarandon) doesn't like it one bit. Roberts is working her way into Sarandon's children's hearts and Sarandon isn't about to let that happen.

Anna and Ben are the children.

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Can't Ask For Help!

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I’m so angry right now! I get home from work and start cleaning the house. My BF and his daughter arrive. My BF goes outside to mow the lawn. I ask his daughter “Hey would you mind doing the dishes for me, I could really use the help.” She says “Sure.” I had two cups and four glasses sitting in the sink that needed to be washed. It took her about five minutes to get them done and then she went outside.

Last night...

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Last night, my BF, my BF’s daughter and I went to watch fireworks by boat. We took our boat and met up with several of our friends. When the fireworks display started, my BF was sitting on our sundeck, his daughter was sitting on the backseat and I was standing in between the front seats of the boat. My BF looked around, then looked at his daughter and said, “Why don’t you come and sit next to me?” She responded that she was fine where she was. I was SO HURT. Not that he asked her to sit next to him and not me, but that he didn’t ask both of us.

A Trivial Vent

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OK, I know this is trivial, but it really bothers me. It has been raining all day and BF and I are both pretty bored, so I suggest we go to a matinee. He asks me what I would like to see and I say well, Pirates 2 is still out in theaters and we haven’t seen it yet. He says, NO. When I ask him why not, he says well his daughter wanted to go see it, so we can’t go without her (it’s always about her). This isn’t his weekend to have her. I wouldn’t mind so much except when she is here, we never go.

It never ends, does it?

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I am so glad I found this sight. I do find comfort in the fact that I am not alone.

Some history, my BF and I have been together for 5 years and he has a 13 year old daughter by his ex-GF. His ex-GF intentionally got pregnant to try to force him to marry her, so there is a lot of bitterness on both sides.

I had never dated anyone who had children before we met and none of my girlfriend's had either, so I really didn't know what I was getting myself into.

How would you feel?

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My BF has his daughter every Tuesday and every other weekend. I have to get up for work earlier than my BF, so when he has his daughter and she has to get up for school, I usually wake her up and make her breakfast before BF gets up. I have been doing this for quite a while now and started because first, I figured I had to get up anyway, so why not let him sleep a little longer and second, I wanted to give his daughter plenty of time to shower (if she needed to), get dressed, eat, etc. and not feel rushed.