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Well...not even two months later, another occasion came up where we had to hang out with my Dh's ex. This time instead of just Dh, her, and their 2 kids and me, more people were expected to attend the party at her house (where my hubby lived for 18 years with her) so I was okay with it. I promised myself I wouldn't torture myself as I peeked into their old bedroom, or wouldn't try to create scenarios of them two sitting outside on the deck...
I have admit I missed him being there. Part of me is glad that he has finally made that transition, however I really did miss him last night. I couldn't sleep and all through the night I asked for God to give me strength to continue to handle things. He has been extra nice to me, making sure things are paid, and that my son and I have everything we need. I'm sure that's guilt. He still insists that he is coming back to me after he ends things with her the right way....whatever that means. This is one of the hardest things I've done...please continue to pray for me guys...thanks.
As a matter of fact, I think this qualifies as the Worst Weekend Ever. I've spent a lot of my time these past 24 hours wondering how someone can be so utterly malcontent and focused on causing problems. It's not just a little misunderstanding here or there. It's literally, EVERY SINGLE THING that she hears happens, she goes off the deep end about. Seriously. I don't think that this would be such a problem if BF allowed her to have the 24/7 total-immersion contact with him and SS that BM wants.
Lately, I've been trying so hard to STOP trying to figure out WHY BB does the things she does, or doesn't do what she is supposed to do, or why she thinks the way she does. I've been reading several books on co-parenting and conflict, etc., but none of it is helping ME. I need to stop trying to figure BB out. I am a natural problem solver so this is really bothering me. I know there are several of you out there that have the same issue, but if anyone has any tactics they'd like to share, I'm all ears.
Thanks,
Katrina
Aarg! My skid has a new job at KFC which is THREE blocks away. Naturally she cannot walk there or back, so DH DRIVES here there plus my DH is always "getting her up" or waking her up and now that she is 18 I think she should get her own ass up or she will get fired and that is life. Welcome to the real world. And it drives me crazy that she has to be chauffered to her job. 8 weeks ago she stole our vehicle. And yet she gets catered around. So she phoned and he was at work.
Ok, my DH is hosting a poker tournament in our home this weekend. He invites about 20 men to come, bet and play. He told me that his son would probably want to play. I told him that it would not be appropriate because that is usually for adults. His son is always contributing to conversations with adults. He thinks he can participate and sees other adults as his peers. He sometimes says unappropriate things, even to my small children. I suggested that he not play. My DH was very offened. He got very upset and said that he doesnt like things I do for my children either.
The Skids are up here this weekend and yes again, they are walking around here ignoring me in my own house. Get this, the SD (15) said she didn't want to come up for 6 weeks as planned. So I begged the BF to just let the kids come up every other weekend. This gives the skids the opportunity to be with their friends in the summer. I am still the bad guy!!!! Skids get sent up last tuesday to spend the week with their grandma before comming here yesterday. Oh yes, they were told not to let us know! What we teach our kids to lie now. I know I am rambling, yet again, but damn.
In a very positive way, I discussed with the skids the upcoming marriage of BM. I said BF seems like a very nice guy (He is. although, this is his 3rd marriage; 2nd broke up over step kid issues(hmmmm)) Imagine my SURPRISE when the skids said ehhhh he is okay, we really do not feel close to him. Why the surprise?? This guy, according to the skids, has walked on water for the past year... and I am thinking he has been around for 1 yr. I have been around for 6 and on more than one occasion have picked up the slack for their mother. (I don't do that anymore...
News to me! BM has fabricated this fake pregnancy AGAIN. What is this, like the 8th time in the past 3 years? She keeps saying "Congrats on the new baby! When is it due?" and asking BF why he's not bragging about being a new daddy, she'd think he'd be jumping for joy if he had a new baby on the way.
Just answer me something...how can you accuse someone of being pregnant? I mean, it doesn't really seem like something you can force someone to admit when it's not true. And why does she keep pretending I'm pregnant anyway?
Ok, since this is "where stepparents come to vent" here u go!
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