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My BF and I have lived together for four years, we are both content with not being married. I have a fear that if we are married that somehow his ex will find someway to use that against him, a little paranoid I know. There is SS who is 11 and SD who is 12, probably 50% of the time we get along pretty well and the other 50% of the time I am gritting my teeth trying to "fake it till I make it". The BM is a very crazy angry person, a bad combonation! BM is very manipulative with everyone in her life including the children. Constantly bad mouthing BF and myself and anything to do with us.
This week is finally, gratefully, over. And, so is my marriage.
Even tonight he made sure to tell me that I've always made too big of a deal about the SD's behavior. He also told me he would never think she was as "bad" as I thought she was.
i will apologise for this next blog right now as i know i do not have anything nice to say next....this is a complete rant next the bm has crossed the line and is driving us crazy so i have a few nasties to get off my chest, sorry to anyone who doesn't like mad crazy ranting....
And I thought we did everything right...including all 4 kids (hubby has 3 kids, I have 1)in our decision to move in...get married. It has been 5 years now and things are terrible. When the SD's come to visit (14,17).... every other weekend or whenever they aren't too busy, it's like being a stranger in my own house. They sit in their room and don't say anything to anyone and it is a weekend of dread and loneliness. And it just keeps getting worse with BM filling their heads with crap. SS is 50/50 but he can be easily influenced by BM and SD's...I hate to think what is coming.
i have some issues that just came to light and i need divorced fathers to speak with, any with 12 - 14 year-old daughters would be perfect for me to discuss my issues.
thanks
I just can't beleive it mut BM called me Wed night yea I said that right she calledme not DH but me!! She wanted our mailing address for school paper work (school started on Monday)ok no problem, she was nice actually told me what SD6 was doing at the moment (she was practing something new she had learned in gym class) and how funny it was and to just wait until she does it at our house this weekend. OMG did i just have an actual conversation with her.
Everytime I think we are going to have a little time without SD (and by a little - even a day or two helps) something goes wrong. For example, I was all excited because hubby arranged with BM to take my SD Friday night through Saturday til late evening. He was going to arrange then for his mom to take SD Saturday night...all for me and us so that we could have an enjoyable holiday weekend without fighting, so we could have family time with just our kids, and so I could have a very needed break from SD. I was so happy that he took the iniative to try to arrange it.
This is not step-related, but just thought y'all needed a little pick-me-up. Maybe I'm behind the times on this one, but I just saw the video on youtube & it rocks. Just when you think the world is going to shit, and nobody cares about nothing, and blah blah blahblibity blah blah...well, this video brightened my day!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vr3x_RRJdd4
Enjoy!
Ok - so, I am a mean ogre. I know and accept this now. I also recognize that my family has a warped sense of humor in some things, and I usually keep it to myself. One of our rules growing up was that we had to bleed outside. People heal, rugs don't. As a result, getting hurt is not so much a big production with me as a thing to deal with and move on...
So the saying goes that "Time will heal all wounds." This question is directed to all of the step parents out there who have been dealing with it for a long time...Do things get better with time? Do the BM's stop treating us SM's like crap? Do the BM's stop acting like insane idiots? Do the BM's ever treat the BD's better? Do the skids ever learn to behave? Does it get easier dealing with skids? Do the skids ever become less of an issue in a marriage?
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