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Peace

Nymh's picture

I can't help but think that it's temporary, but at least for now BM is controlling herself and acting like an adult. BF and I are ever so thankful! If things could just always be like this! Of course I'm sure that it's just because the court stuff is coming up on the 26th. But there's a teeny tiny chance that it might be sincere...I'm not getting my hopes up though.

Troubled SD

English's picture

I have been a SP for 5 years. I have 3 BS 10 years old and 12 years old with my first husband and a 3 year old with my CH. My CH has a 15 year old daughter from a previous marriage. Both of us have 50% legal and physical custody of our children. Since the beginning of this year, my 15 year old SD has been acting out. It started with skipping school, failing grades and lying about her whereabouts.

Visitation?

peachymom's picture

Ok so for the past few months DH has been working out of town, he comes home about once a month. So my question is, should SS7 still be coming for his weekend visitation? He has his little sister here, and I like having him here, most of the time. On occasion I will request not to take him, or just for one night, like when DD is sick, or stuff like that. But often BM will say he's not coming cuz DH isn't home. So I was just wondering what everyones take on this is.

Heaven Help Me

Gabby77's picture

SO last nighht we told my parents about the baby!!!! Yeah!! Everyone's excited. Then DH feels how he has to give a little speach about how it's important to trat SD 7 equal bn/c she feels left out. I wanted to kill him. First of all he neglected to mention his other daughter 2 ANd I just feel like he had picked a pooor time to discuss this with MY parents. He thinks that SD is left out but really she's just a jealous little sh*t who can't deal with anyone else gettting attention.

Calling the school

Medical Mom's picture

I called the skids' school yesterday and tried to get info about their grades and attendance because BM doesn't say anything other than "they are doing fine" Yeah well that is what she said last year and SD almost failed the fourth grade. But b/c I am not legally married to him yet they wont give me any info but they will send it to me in the mail. Makes NO SENSE!!!!!!!!

The letter to BM

sunshine's picture

Last night, I instructed all the children, my two BD and my SD that I wanted them to clean their rooms since I knew they wanted to attend a football game tonight and spend the night with friends or grandmas. While they were cleaning, I went through each of their school folders to look at grades. Well in my SD's daughter math folder was a note to her BM,,,it bascially read that she "couldnt stand living in our house. Her father has become over protective only because of me. That her father only listens to what I have to say. That I am not her mother and I will never be her mother.

confused

royal blue's picture

I have a 7 and 11 year old SD. Me and bf have been married 3 years and I still have a hard time with this step parenting thing. A lot of people tell me that I am supposed to love my sd as my own, I do love them so much, but I don't know if I love them as I would love my own. It is so hard for me because I can't talk to my husband about it because i'm afraid it may hurt him. He is so close to his daughters. Is this because I don't have children of my own?? Does having children of your own help you to be a good step parent because you already know what you're doing??

ok that warmed my heart

whoami's picture

i just got a call from ex bf's 10yr old daughter. she called to say she missed me and she was sad i was gone and she wants me to come back. she said 'we love you here. please come back'. my hear melted. i almost started crying.

i told her that us adults can be so silly with our adult stuff and that her father and i were working on 'stuff' to see if we can make that happen. she said 'ok, but don't take too long, i miss you. your car is sitting here in the drive way and you need to drive it.' i asked her if her father put her up to it and she said no. i really believe her.

Here's a question...

h7's picture

My step dad is jealous of my relationship with my mother & wants me to go away. Hmm. So, I guess the way I see it, he wants to rob me of my relationship with my mother & is frustrated that he can't. And because he's married to her, he thinks it is his right.

From a step parent's point of view, do you think that is right? I know it's harsh, but this is what it really feels like. Maybe that's the reason his crappy attitude bothers me so much, because usually I am indifferent to people who don't like me.

Feedback would be appreciated.

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