as i lean more and more to divorce each day that i am away from him, dh is telling me how he is going to be strong, that he is going to prove it to me, that he can be what i need. so today, after i catch him at the house snooping in my journal (which i just hid last night!!!), i tell him how the other day when he kissed me, i felt nothing. how it was a shock to me too, that i don't think my heart will change, that i think it's over. how i want us to be civil, i still want to count on him, and him on me, but that shit happens and we should both move on.
so dh moved out last night. he wrote me a really nice letter and my best friend and i sat there and read it through blinding tears. love is hard, marriage is hard, especially when dh is super stupid. i am taking things one day at a time. i am really proud of myself though. i did it. i stood my ground and demanded respect. you can't just f#ck me over and expect me to come back for more. he said he isn't giving up, that he will prove to me he is the one. i think it would take a miracle. i also had an hour with my shrink last night. gotta love professional help.
just wondering if anyone knows the law here in kentucky. and no, he's not my cousin, hardy har har. but seriously, we have no kids, i purchased the house by myself before we married, my car is in my name and paid off, and i'm really not worried about the credit card that we shared prior to marriage...i just want something simple and easy, and cheap! plus i have these questions if anyone knows...
so i have this 'friend' who needs some advice.
this dh had drunken sex with this friend's friend. obviously she wasn't really a friend but whatever. so my question is, how do you know whether you should stay or you should go? she has technically stayed for four months now and she hasn't really gotten over it. i mean, how do you? just curious if anyone has any experience with this sort of stuff. and if anyone needs more details, i'll ask my 'friend.'
so dh went to his individual counseling session the other day and shared bb's latest excursion into the city (her stalking halloween appearance). the counselor was freaked out. he sent the judge a letter informing him that dh has completed his counseling and that he doesn't think it would be good to continue joint counseling at this point in time. hallelujah. then the counselor began talking about how his last session with bb he really got her to open up and how detrimental her childhood was and blahdy, blah, blah, blah. WHO CARES?! sorry.
so, even though i know i shouldn't, i took a little peek at bb's myspace page today. she has a blog titled 'tips for separated parents' and within that blog are links to how to cooperate with your ex. OMG. are you freaking kidding me???!!! does she actually believe that we are the bad guys? i just don't understand if she is insane or if she is enjoying playing the hypocrite just to get me riled up. what do you all think?
i am feeling that ever familiar rage again today. why? because i hate crazy people! just thinking about how twisted and corrupt their image is of us tears me up. do they actually believe we are the bad guys? how can they?!!!! ALL we want is to spend time with sd and for those four days a month, they hate us, they tear us apart, they blame us, and they pick pick pick!!!! i just can't take it today. i really really really try to live my life happy and kind, always thoughtful of others and i definitely don't go about trying to ruin people's lives.
hey all. so we can't afford a lawyer, and if we could have just gotten one two years ago, none of this shit would be happening, and if it were, it would be nipped in the bud real quick!! so now here we are without a lawyer and a crazy bb intent on 'proving' we are monsters. should we get a restraining order? go back to counseling first? set a court date?
any help at all is 100 percent appreciated!
okay, so dh is in a band and friday night we had a halloween party at one of these small bars we like to frequent. we were all in costume and having a great time, when, around 12:30 a.m., dh calls me up to the stage. he said that bb and her crazy toothless bf just walked out of the bar. i was like who, what? i mean, here i am having a damn good time (as a french maid, mind you) that the LAST person i wanted to think about was crazy bb.
i guess if you're a liar, you may as well be a really good one...seriously, all she did for one hour was lie about shit from the past. how many times can they rehash the same ol' shit?! granted, this time was for the benefit of the counselor, who by the way said he didn't see how the two of them even got together in the first place, to which dh told him how he was at a low point in his life and she pursued him. she said he pursued him! and the lies just kept going. she said our dogs attacked sd and that they were german shepard size.