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first 'counseling' session with dh and bb

lmdavi0's picture

i guess if you're a liar, you may as well be a really good one...seriously, all she did for one hour was lie about shit from the past. how many times can they rehash the same ol' shit?! granted, this time was for the benefit of the counselor, who by the way said he didn't see how the two of them even got together in the first place, to which dh told him how he was at a low point in his life and she pursued him. she said he pursued him! and the lies just kept going. she said our dogs attacked sd and that they were german shepard size. okay, the nipped her, once when we were giving the terrier a haircut and once when she tried to take a bone from our basset, neither of which are waist-high like she tried to say. lol. then she said she was on my myspace page the other night, um, hello, my page is on PRIVATE, and obviously for a very good reason! that i am an alcoholic, that dh is also. it was just ridiculous. and she tried to get her boyfriend into the session!!!! lol. i am positive the counselor saw right through her evil ways. and i was proud of dh because he made some excellent points. so now they each have to watch some 'getting along after divorce' video even though they weren't freaking married. it costs $20 which is awesome; i love wasting money. then they have an individual session, then TWO more joint ones. are you freaking kidding me??? and of course bb was the one to point out that fact, which only confirms that she wants to meet with him. it was funny how the counselor caught bb in multiple lies though, it definitely helps our case. so at this rate, we won't see sd for another month and a half, making it a grand total of five months since we've seen her or talked to her. isn't that f#cking insane???!!! so dh said he has some choice words for the judge regarding how he has been treated, not getting to talk to sd and all. so wish us luck that the rest of these sessions actually get somewhere and maybe, just maybe, she can talk about productive ways to raise their daughter, rather than lie about who cheated with who, who pursued who, some 10 years ago!!!!!!

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GoneCrazy's picture

It never ceases to amaze me how these women can't let go of the past. Move on and do what's best for the kids. I really wish you the best of luck in court. It's very sad how the dad's who actually want to be father's are treated so poorly.
I'm glad you were able to catch her in her lies in front of a neutral party, that will help A LOT!

shandee's picture

I felt like I was reading something i wrote myself! My husband and his ex ( that he was never married to ) haven't been to counseling yet but i hope it will happen soon! And i will prolly have the same post as you!!! It's amazing the men that can lose parenting time for so little as not agreeing with the opinions of the ex and the bm can lie manipulate, and mental abuse children by poisoning their little minds, and well thats ok. I have my own kids to worry about but i have NEVER kept them from their fathers, ( i've wanted to a couple times) but what most ppl forget is its not about ME anymore its about the kids!

lmdavi0's picture

it is sad. i just hope that after these sessions, the judge will be quicker to hold her ass in contempt. i mean, there is only so much bs we can go over, you know?
i have good feelings about it. surely the judge will get a huge insight into the case post-counseling. let's cross our fingers!!

always forgive your enemies, nothing annoys them so much.

Chocoholic's picture

I am so glad that your back Imdavi0!
This is a very hard for you (as you know, I completly understand); rest assured that this too shall pass.... BB will continue to get caught in her lies and her true self will show. People like the BB's that we deal with always end up hanging themselves sooner or later.... just give her a little rope.... she'll do the rest for you!

"Don't be distracted by criticism. Remember, the only taste of success some people ever have is when they take a bite out of you."