I am engaged to my bf of 3 years we are planning to get married just the two of us none of our children by eloping in Reno this winter. I found this site because I was curious about what struggles there are in blended families. This will be the second marriage for both of us. I have a 16 and 11 yr old daughters at home he has a 10 yr son and 8 yr girl at home we don't plan to live together until we are married. So far we have been getting along great the problems mostly come from his 8 yr old daughter.

ok, SS and FH moved in early this month, rules were estabalished.
however, SS is hardly home (stays at girlfriends) he does come over on occasion to shower or wash a small load of laundry.
My confusion is how much responsibility should I expect. one rule was that if he does not work then he must do some other "chore" ie. clean cutters to make up for not paying rent also kids are giving a daily chore list but he is hardly at home.

Sita Tara's recent blog reminds me of several "run ins" that I've apparently had with BM in public (and in private) that I never knew about until afterward. I guess I don't pay as much attention as [BM] does.

There was one time that I was driving BF's vehicle and she saw me getting out in a parking lot, and claims to have taken a picture out the side of her car. I wonder how she managed taking a picture out the window of her car, of something she had just noticed when driving past at 45 mph. That resulted in about a week's worth of emails about "that whore driving your car".

It has been quite sometime since I have been on. I think I was pregnant with my youngest and she is almost one year old now.
Things have been hell recently. Exwife has been so awful, her mother has been and so has my DH mother. She has jumped ship from our side over the the ex's. Not sure when their relationship was renewed but I do know it was behind my husband's back. MIL has always had issued wiht her daughter in laws.