Should I get out now?
I am engaged to my bf of 3 years we are planning to get married just the two of us none of our children by eloping in Reno this winter. I found this site because I was curious about what struggles there are in blended families. This will be the second marriage for both of us. I have a 16 and 11 yr old daughters at home he has a 10 yr son and 8 yr girl at home we don't plan to live together until we are married. So far we have been getting along great the problems mostly come from his 8 yr old daughter. She is in competition with everything constantly comparing what the older children are "getting to do" and her father pays her off with different rewards to satisfy her whining. Since we only spend weekends together I look forward to cuddling with my fiance but she always finds a way inbetween us I usually just get up and go do something else. Another thing that bothers me is he still bathes her and fetches her water, combs her hair, cuts her pancakes, and the list goes on. It drives me mad my children were so much more mature at that age. When she asks me to get her something I tell her shes a big girl and get it herself but then HE jumps up and gets it for her. I am considering calling the wedding off because i am now scared of my future and my childrens future living with this whiney brat who is NEVER happy and ruins all of our weekends with her pouting and complaining about the food, sleeping arrangements, clothes, and Way More I could make a book of her complaints. She is miserable and negative just like her Bmother and I fear the man who hopes to please her someday because he will go insane trying.