tolerating negative, miserable behavior.
SS17 wakes up/enters house and the first words out of his mouth are always loud complaints. I now cut him off immediately & tell him if its negative/drama/complaints he is not allowed to speak. I am sick & tired of everyone's mornings & afternoons being disrupted by this whirlwind of negativity.
SS5 wakes up/enters house frowning & whining. I now immediately cut him off & instruct him that if he cannot speak in a normal voice/can't stop frowning, whatever it is he is asking for will be denied until he can be pleasant.
I have 2 children of my own, and as I have stated before they are NOT perfect, but based on my experience of parenting them, I know SK's behavior is not NORMAL or at least horrible habitual behavior that no one has bothered to correct (just as noone has bothered to teach SS5 please, thank you or his ABCs!!)
I have never met 2 more unpleasant, unfriendly children in my life.
I came into this situation wanting to love SKs, be a positive role model, merge into 1 happy family... but that dream has turned into a nightmare. DH is a lazy parent, SS17 BM is a lazy, STUPID parent (she didn't bother to take SS17 to dentist for 4 years, lied & said she did, then tooth cracked & truth came out!) SS5 BM is more concerned with feeling she has control over her time with SS5 & trying to pretend DH doesn't exist than in making decisions that are best for him, & allows him to act like a 2 year old so he makes everyone here miserable...
And they are both here 50% of the time, but on different schedules so I hardly ever get a break!!!!! I get 1 3/4 days of freedom from them every other week! NOT ENOUGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Meanwhile my children have been exposed to dysfunction, bad parenting, negativity, etc & have watched me become very bitter. My days here are numbered.... I am working on an exit plan. My children deserve better. I deserve better.
Thanks for the space to vent!