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Oh well, what can you do?
So SS13 missed another three days of school this week due to illness. He supposedly threw up at school, so BM picked him up. He had to miss Thursday because the district rule is if you throw up, you can't come back the next day. Friday morning, guess what happened? He got sick again. Apparently spent the day on his PS5 until she made him check assignments. Lounging around, snacking, etc.
SS has acid reflux that causes him to spit up occasionally. He has medication to keep it under control.
DH, who is out of town, asked BM: Has he been taking his medication?
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Awwww — Isn’t teen attitude adorable?!
Teens tend to have attitude. I get it. I'm sure I did it on rare occasions (but was never allowed to get away with it).
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Good grief — is the school problem starting again?
It was a fairly quiet summer and start to the school year. SS13 is in his final year of middle school. And now it appears an old problem may be back.
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What’s “just kids” and what’s “this kid”?
Nothing major has happened lately (we'll see if that changes when school starts next week), but I have some rambling thoughts.
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Hygiene — this shouldn’t be a problem, right?
The summer has been going well so far. No more good in the room (I suspect DH finally found the right sensitive spot by taking away gym visits with BM). SS13 is here pretty much all day, but is in his room, so we rarely see him. Still, I'm keeping track of how long until school starts. Only two more weeks with us.
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Really wish DH would drop the family thing
SS13's lack of relationship with my family continues to bother DH. SS didn't want to go to the last family birthday dinner and pretty much told DH he doesn't want to go to stuff going forward.
I don't see this as a huge deal. He's 13. The other kids are all girls (except my 19-year-old nephew). He doesn't know anyone all that well. Kids that age don't necessarily love spending time with aunts, uncles and cousins they are close to, let alone the bio family of the stepmother they only tolerate.
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Who can’t handle what?
The other day, I was thinking about something DH said to me several years ago:
"I don't think you're able to handle being a stepmother -- being married to someone with a child that isn't yours."
That was in the days when he was more hung up on the happy family vision -- one he finally dropped.
For some reason, it popped back into my head. The truth is for me (and probably many of you), it's not that I can't handle being a step. It's that DH couldn't handle being married to someone who isn't his child's mother.
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SS and family problems
SS13 isn't close to my family. Several factors are involved:
1 The only other boy is 19. All the kids close to his age are girls. He goes to a different school. The girls are all close to each other, but he's sort of odd man out, due in part to his being a boy.
2 He hasn't spent a lot of time with them. They go to the beach together every summer, but we've only gone twice. We like to do other traveling and we don't always have the time off.
3 He's shy. My family are mostly introverts. DH and I are introverts.
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Baseball — kids these days
SS13 is with BM this week and DH got a text from her saying SS fell and hurt his knee ice skating today, so won't be at his baseball game tonight.
DH was annoyed because for years now, coaches have been consistent in telling parents "don't take the kids swimming or for big physical activities on game days." Also, SS has never been ice skating. Of course he was going to fall.
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No, you don’t have to go to school
So, this is the last week of school and SS13 is with us. This evening, he announced to DH, "My mom said I don't have to go to school Friday."
Again, it's DH's week. So nice of her to make that unilateral decision.
DH's company doesn't work Fridays, so he was annoyed, but just shrugged it off. He said, "if I say no, I'm the bad guy. And BM will just offer to get him for the day."
I swear, her presumption and overstepping is getting worse.
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